have you discussed the issues with them yet?
i would say the general answer to that would be YES....however if there are extremely extenuating circumstances, there are always exceptions. (if one of them killed any of your pets....purposely ...that would be an example...)
It sounds bad, but I don't know what you're going through. Do what you feel is best!
Yes I have, but they are soo carefree!! and the minute I want to kick them out, they keep saying how they are going to be hurt!!
Posted by grkbarbie
well.. piece of advice...
dont expect them to do ANYTHING..
i have no expectations of my bridesmaids so there wasnt that much room for disappointment.
with that being said.. their only obligation is to take a shwoer and put on their dress. and occasionally smile for pics.
if your sisters cant even do that, then yes.. give them the option to shape up or to leave the BP
leave the ball in their court, that way u dont look like a jerk
Posted by grkbarbie
well.. piece of advice...
dont expect them to do ANYTHING..
i have no expectations of my bridesmaids so there wasnt that much room for disappointment.
with that being said.. their only obligation is to take a shwoer and put on their dress. and occasionally smile for pics.
if your sisters cant even do that, then yes.. give them the option to shape up or to leave the BP
leave the ball in their court, that way u dont look like a jerk
My older sister lives in FL and she hasn't even given me her measurements for her dress as yet!!
we are in a similar sitution. FH has not spoken to his bro, sister in law or their kids in over 3 monhts and his bro and the 2 kids are supposed to be in our BP. We both even tried to contact them today b/c one of the kids are having surgery. it just *****
Posted by Noelsgirl
Yes I have, but they are soo carefree!! and the minute I want to kick them out, they keep saying how they are going to be hurt!!
i agree with barb. as for your sister in fl, tell her to either give you her measurements by such and such a date or don't order a dress and be in the bp at all...
I'd approach them in private and ask if they can resolve the differences before the wedding...remind them that its an honor for them to share in YOUR special day..and that one day, you would do the same if they get married!
Posted by jilliibabii
This is the point where I'd whip out the bride card, pick a dress, tell them they are buying it or they can come dressed in whatever they'd like... as a guest.
But I've also had minimal expectations of my BMs. My mom gets all upset that they don't help with the DIY stuff. They don't help because I don't ask them. I don't expect them to stop their lives for my stupid wedding.
Sorry for the mini rant. Can you tell this has been bothering me?![]()
Posted by grkbarbie
well.. piece of advice...
dont expect them to do ANYTHING..
i have no expectations of my bridesmaids so there wasnt that much room for disappointment.
with that being said.. their only obligation is to take a shwoer and put on their dress. and occasionally smile for pics.
if your sisters cant even do that, then yes.. give them the option to shape up or to leave the BP
leave the ball in their court, that way u dont look like a jerk
Posted by Noelsgirl
Posted by jilliibabii
This is the point where I'd whip out the bride card, pick a dress, tell them they are buying it or they can come dressed in whatever they'd like... as a guest.
But I've also had minimal expectations of my BMs. My mom gets all upset that they don't help with the DIY stuff. They don't help because I don't ask them. I don't expect them to stop their lives for my stupid wedding.
Sorry for the mini rant. Can you tell this has been bothering me?![]()
I feel yah, BMs are so hard to deal with!! I'm just goona have to give them a date, again!! And be really stern with it!
Posted by grkbarbie
well.. piece of advice...
dont expect them to do ANYTHING..
i have no expectations of my bridesmaids so there wasnt that much room for disappointment.
with that being said.. their only obligation is to take a shwoer and put on their dress. and occasionally smile for pics.
if your sisters cant even do that, then yes.. give them the option to shape up or to leave the BP
leave the ball in their court, that way u dont look like a jerk
