is it really weird...

es2189 Posted: Jun 04, 2010 09:41 AM

is it really weird...

if we don't do a first dance, but i do a father/daughter dance? we just decided to skip the first dance, because it was stressing us out so much, but i sorta still want to do the father/daughter dance b/c my dad LOVES to dance and he's really good. what do you think?

i know...NOT normally the kind of question that one asks 2 days before the wedding!!!

TIA!!

AwaitingAugust Posted: Jun 04, 2010 09:43 AM

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i think it's kind of weird ... but maybe you can dance with your FH (first dance) for like 15 seconds, then have your dad 'cut in' and dance the rest of the song with him?

just make sure it's obvious to the guests that it was planned that way so your dad doesn't look like a jerk

StaceyWill Posted: Jun 04, 2010 09:43 AM

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I don't think it's weird! I think you should do what you want to do.

Jna2010 Posted: Jun 04, 2010 09:44 AM

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i think its kinda wierd, and i also think that looking back you may regret it... whatss tressing you out about it?

halfbaked Posted: Jun 04, 2010 09:47 AM

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Posted by AwaitingAugust

i think it's kind of weird ... but maybe you can dance with your FH (first dance) for like 15 seconds, then have your dad 'cut in' and dance the rest of the song with him?

just make sure it's obvious to the guests that it was planned that way so your dad doesn't look like a jerk

I think that's a good idea. We were really nervous about the first dance, too. So after about 30 seconds of us dancing, the DJ invited all the couples onto the dance floor.

AngnShaun Posted: Jun 04, 2010 09:48 AM

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Posted by Jna2010

i think its kinda wierd, and i also think that looking back you may regret it... whatss tressing you out about it?

ita

DWKSwed Posted: Jun 04, 2010 11:19 AM

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I think you should have a first dance and just keep it simple/non stressful. Pick a song you like, don't put pressure on yourselves to make it a big thing, and just sway/middle school dance style dancing. I am afraid you'll regret not having one otherwise, and it doesn't need to be a big huge deal if you simplify it in your head.

BriansWifey Posted: Jun 04, 2010 01:13 PM

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i would think its a lil weird... why wouldnt u do a first dance? like hows it stressin u out??
if you're not doing a first dance, i wouldnt do a mother/son or father/daughter dance either...

lbkate Posted: Jun 04, 2010 02:14 PM

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what is stressing you out about the two of you dancing that you wouldn;t be stressed about with your dad? I say start the dance, last 15 seconds then have the dj invite everyone else...or else its kinda weird..jmo

little j Posted: Jun 04, 2010 02:16 PM

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idk...sorry...but since the 'first dance' is really just the first dance as a married couple, it is going to happen no matter what.....so you might as well pick a song you like and sway-back-and-forth for alittle bit. if you want, your DJ can invite ppl on the dance floor like 30 seconds into the song

flibbertigibbet Posted: Jun 04, 2010 02:17 PM

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i think it's weird and might be considered almost disrespectful to your hubby that you choose to have a special section of time blocked off for you and your pops but not a dance as man and wife.

end of story.

Marianne13 Posted: Jun 04, 2010 02:22 PM

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yeah, I would think its a little strange.

why not dance with your father when everyone else is dancing? (don't call it the father daughter dance)...or consider having a first dance?

MrsSx2 Posted: Jun 04, 2010 02:48 PM

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Ya, I think it would be kinda weird. Sorry!

SummerBride10 Posted: Jun 04, 2010 02:49 PM

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Posted by weddingbees

i think it's weird and might be considered almost disrespectful to your hubby that you choose to have a special section of time blocked off for you and your pops but not a dance as man and wife.

end of story.

ITA. That would be the first thing I would think of.

Maybe if you're really set..you can have a special song for ALL the dads/daughters out there?

JAAMS Posted: Jun 04, 2010 05:13 PM

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Posted by weddingbees

i think it's weird and might be considered almost disrespectful to your hubby that you choose to have a special section of time blocked off for you and your pops but not a dance as man and wife.

end of story.

ITA

What about it is stressing you out?

jackieee Posted: Jun 04, 2010 05:30 PM

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I would do the first dance. If it's stressing you out about picking a song, just pick one that you both love and can maybe somewhat relate to the lyrics. as long as you both love it, who cares!

If youre nervous about people looking at you, have the dj tell everyone else to get on the dance floor like 15 seconds into it! No one will even pay attention to you guys then.

I wouldnt skip this

SoonToBeMrsCampos Posted: Jun 04, 2010 05:50 PM

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Posted by weddingbees

i think it's weird and might be considered almost disrespectful to your hubby that you choose to have a special section of time blocked off for you and your pops but not a dance as man and wife.

end of story.

ITA! Is it that u can't settle on a song? Or is it the acutal dancing in front of everybody?

es2189 Posted: Jun 05, 2010 07:44 AM

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Thanks everyone!! I have decided to do a first dance. It was really my fiance who was stressed about it, but he's agreed to either do a simple box step or sway for like 30 seconds and then have people join.

flibbertigibbet Posted: Jun 05, 2010 08:27 AM

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yay. you won't be sorry! it's a very special time for you guys ... plus your kids one day will want to know what you danced to and one day theyll throw you an anniversary party and you can dance to it