I have 4 total BMs (well, 1 MOH and 3 BMs) ... since 2 of the BMs are OOT, my MOH and BM took me out for my bach party last night (pics to come shortly ) and i feel so guilty about the fact that they paid so much for me!!!
so can i offer to pay for just their hair and not the other girls' hair? i would not tell the others about it ....
i do know it's wrong to give these two more than the others but they are doing much more for me (though obviously it makes sense cause as i said, the other 2 are OOT)
what do you gals think i should do?
Becca2010
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Are you going to a salon the day of or is the hair person coming to you?
I'd say, if you're going to a salon, it would be easy to get away with only paying for 2 by giving them AMEX giftcards or something.
IF the hair person is coming to you day of, you could give the hair person some money up front and tell them who is already paid for.
I don't think it's so bad to treat those girls to hair on the day of since they went all out for your bparty, BUT you have to make sure the others don't find out b/c that might start some bad feelings among the other girls.
AwaitingAugust
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We're having a hair person come to the hotel that morning ... but you're right, i can say they gave me money in advance and i'm giving the hair person one check ... i'd tell the two i'm paying for not to say a word about it and i'm sure they wouldn't .... but you're right, i'd be a bit nervous that someone would slip ...
win01
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I might think about it as you don't want to have to 'lie' on your day and worry about someone slipping....How about you do something special for those two who did so much for you...Maybe something from your honeymoon, or a spa day when you get back....You could enjoy a mani pedi with them upon your return as well.... Just a thought...
Lil OC
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I don't think there is anything wrong with giving the 2 BMs something extra for going above and beyond for you. But I like the idea of pre-paying for their hair, that way the other girls don't know about it.
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I think it is fine for you to pay for them, esp after all they have done for you. I just wouldnt announce it and I would ask them to keep it to themselves as well. It is no one else's business what you do for them individually. JMO
SoonToBeMrsCampos
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I'm prob doing the same thing! Paying for MOH and FSIL and the rest can pay for themselves!
Scarpak
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Sorry im crashing but I think it can potentially cause some problems int he long run. You also have to look at it as those 2 BMs went and did more for you, but it is always more financial and other responsibility when you are an OOT member of a bridal party. In the end you have to do what feels right, but if someone slips, it can cause major issues.
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As long as you don't tell the other girls, I'd do it.
I paid for my sister's hair and make-up and the deposit on her BM dress, but she's young and I didn't want my mom paying for anything else!
Elana
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I think it could cause problems if the other BM's find out. I plan on paying for my sister (MOH), but I think with family it's different. Like someone else said, I don't want my mom to have to spend any more money. I also paid for her dress deposit.
