Is it rude to...

... cash wedding gift checks before the wedding?

One of my favorite great-aunts replied 'no' to my wedding because she has health problems, and she put a nice little note in with the reply, along with a check as a wedding present. Should I wait until after we are married to cash the check, or is it okay to cash it now?

My only concern with waiting is that I believe that checks are only valid for a certain number of days, and I'm not sure what that number is.

it is definitely NOT rude to cash a check now! we did

I dont think its rude...the longer you hold on to it the longer the people will just be wondering when you are gonna cash it

Personally, I hate it when people hold onto my checks and don't cash them for a long period of time.

I gave you the check now, and that means I have that money now in my account... What happens if you wait and then you cash it and she dosen't have the money in that account. Then she will get charged.

Thank goodness that hasn't happened to me.

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Posted by prinses777

Personally, I hate it when people hold onto my checks and don't cash them for a long period of time.

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Ditto. I don't think it's rude to cash it now. If she didn't want you to have the money now she would have waited and sent a card around the date of the wedding with the check.

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Posted by prinses777

Personally, I hate it when people hold onto my checks and don't cash them for a long period of time.

I gave you the check now, and that means I have that money now in my account... What happens if you wait and then you cash it and she dosen't have the money in that account. Then she will get charged.

Thank goodness that hasn't happened to me.

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I am totally agree with you.

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Posted by Nadia

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Posted by prinses777

Personally, I hate it when people hold onto my checks and don't cash them for a long period of time.

I gave you the check now, and that means I have that money now in my account... What happens if you wait and then you cash it and she dosen't have the money in that account. Then she will get charged.

Thank goodness that hasn't happened to me.

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I am totally agree with you.

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You know I totally did not even think about that. I was originally going to say that it is NOT rude to cash a check before the wedding date, but I was going to wait until after the wedding, but now after reading these posts I realize that by holding onto someone's check you may throw off their whole checking account. If FH & I should get checks before our wedding date, I will definitely be cashing the checks as they come in.

i agree its not rude to cash it now, that is why he send it to you.

but imo, i would send a picture thank you too after the wedding

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Posted by evnme

we deposited all checks as we got them. it's not rude at all!

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evnme, I like your new avatar. Subtle change, but very cute!

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Posted by evnme

we deposited all checks as we got them. it's not rude at all!

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That's what we did. I also sent a Thank You right away too.

usually it says on the check how long its valid.

if it doesn't, its usually up to a year to deposit.

I would do it now, I hate it when I give people checks and they hold them - it messes up my bank account!

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Posted by Nadia

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Posted by prinses777

Personally, I hate it when people hold onto my checks and don't cash them for a long period of time.

I gave you the check now, and that means I have that money now in my account... What happens if you wait and then you cash it and she dosen't have the money in that account. Then she will get charged.

Thank goodness that hasn't happened to me.

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I am totally agree with you.

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me too!!!