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IS IT WRONG?

DAT DUDETTE Posted:

IS IT WRONG?

I actually do not know how to feel about this.

I have been with my FH for the last 7 years. He proposed to me on new years this year.

So we decided to get married next year.
I ask him ? about his oppinion on what he would like for the wedding and his response is always.

'WHAT EVER YOU WANT. I dont mind i like everything you like. I trust you'.

Sometimes it gets me sooo mad.
Is this normal? He said he doesn't want to be bothered with planning becuase he got his prize already- ME.

I would like for him to be more involved but then again i don't.

He told me to do what ever i want, because weddings are for the woman. Men dont care to much for it.
Is this right. or am i taking it to the head for nothing?
Mommy2BeBride Posted:

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My FH was like that and still is for the most part, but he is some what involved in the decisions. Especially since we are both paying for this wedding ourselves.

evita2781 Posted:

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ehh my FH is like that. But I always run things through him first to make sure he's ok with it. Even though he said whatever I want, he still voices his opinion on whether he likes it or not. And of course i take that into consideration.

give it time, when u start planning and actually meeting vendors, i'm sure he'll get into it!
MrsRtoBe11 Posted:

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my FH is the same way ... he came to book the Rh and thats about it, he hands me money every friday, and although it annoys me how uninvolved he is, he is working so hard, so i know he is excited in his own way.
as we get closer, he is chiming in from time to time. hes excited to go register! :)
DAT DUDETTE Posted:

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ohhhh thank you ladies....

i was feeling a little out of place here.
i thought i was the only one!

angelscri Posted:

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My fh tells me the same thing, but when it actually comes time to plan or book something he is always involved. Sometimes, I wish he would just let me do what I want.
Once you actually start planning I am sure he will be more excited and involved.
VCanizalez Posted:

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Its normal Chica...My FH says da same thing...

Get waht u want amor, I have u, das all it matters...

Whenever i ask for an opinion, he always says 'I LOVE IT HONEY'... Im like wth amor u love everything?!!!!


Just relax chica....
jesstangney Posted:

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that's totally normal!!!!!

The best thing that's helped me is to narrow down what I like then present it to FH.... say, I like these two colors best, which do you like better, or I like this photog & this one lets meet them both and see what we both think... That helps with EVERYTHING not just the wedding planning. I am also VERY luck (or unlucky as the case may be) that FH is very involved in the planning. He is, lets just say very in touch with his feminine side (he recognized a song from Glee as one from A Chorus Line, he knows who Kristin Chenoweth is, and was the one who decided on Lavender as one of our colors.... I told him tonight that I am damn glad we had premarital sex b/c otherwise I would have no confirmation that he was straight!!!!) But to get him moving on things, such as the save the dates, or invites, or addresses.... I have to shut all electronics off - TV, Computer, phone must be in other room, and have him look me straight in the eyes to discuss.
bebita0830 Posted:

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Awwww Despina that's so SWEET!!!!! FH is pretty much the same way, which is in a way good 'cause then u can do things the way u like, but I def understand when u say that it gets annoying when they don't get involved because then u start thinking....hey...I'm not marrying to myself?!?! I guess it has pros and cons, and I actually don't mind it too much, I def don't like guys that need to know every tiny lil' thing, one of my brothers in law is like that, and seriously it gets annoying!

DAT DUDETTE Posted:

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Oh girl.

He is like what ever you want. just make sure you don't go crazy..

I guess it benifits me in the end. less stress and i dont have to answer to him!
haitianbeautie Posted:

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my dude is like that too and when he does have to make a descsion he gets really flustered becasue he doesnt want to choose the wrong thing....then gets mad at me for making him choose!

adelya21 Posted:

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totally normal. lol my FH says the same thing! he had opinions about food but thats it. he just says he wants to get married doesnt care how or where. typical boy lol

angelatp Posted:

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totally normal my fh does the exact same thing. No opinions what so ever.
Richiesgirl Posted:

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you are taking it to the head for nothing.

What is our response when our FH asks us...

What tires do you like?
What do you think of this power tool?

A guy is going to be a guy..AND most (not all) do not go into detail...

they know we need flowers, church, venue etc

they don't think about colors, table #'s, DOJ and all that other stuff.

MY FH is like this and I felt bad in the beginning but I am OK with it..at least were not arguing over table linens and bumping heads
mrsq2be Posted:

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my fh is like that too. but he went to all the appts with me. he wanted to be involved, and he is the bargainer too... I can't negotiate, but i hate when I ask his opinion on something and he jsut says.. do you like it? I answer yes, then he says - ok then get it.

so basically the details I am in charge of, I guess. he doesn't care much about it. it does get aggravating.
celticbride Posted:

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They all say that but when it comes down to it they will voice their opinions to you. I told FH i would take care of everything except Music. But he did help with final decisions on other things. He also chose the RH.

JuneBride14 Posted:

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my FH had the same attitude when i would ask his opinion about wedding things- he kept saying 'it's your wedding' which drove me nuts!!! i came to terms with him not wanting to ask what i am working on and give opinions (although he won't say YOUR wedding anymore and says ours).... but then when i make certain decisions he has something to say about wanting something different
dianeb888 Posted:

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I thought my FH was going to be like that, but he has been very involved in everything (except flowers LOL)

jenhef Posted:

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The funny thing is.. even if he says something he likes.. most likely you will go with the opposite..

We as brides know what we are looking for.. Fh's don't really care.. they just want to make us happy. I bring him to all appointments but he doesn't really make the final decision, I do.. but at least he's somewhat involved.
mrsg2be11 Posted:

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Posted by dianeb888

I thought my FH was going to be like that, but he has been very involved in everything (except flowers LOL)


Me too! He's a lot more into it than I thought he was going to be...he was helping me pick out BM's dress colors last night

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