A Usher and a Groomsmen? If so what are the differences?
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curliegirl
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From what I have learned, groomsmen fulfill the same responsibilities as BMs.
Ushers were traditionally for escorting guests in the church.
I think nowadays they are pretty interchangeable, though.
SomethingBlu
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From theknot.com:
Q. We are having a maid of honor and a best man but are considering not having additional bridesmaids or groomsmen and wonder how we should handle escorting guests. I know we would still need ushers, but what do they do once the guests have been seated?
A. Groomsmen (the men in the wedding party who escort bridesmaids) and ushers -- the men (usually) who seat guests -- are not necessarily the same guys. They can be, certainly, but they don't have to be. You can have ushers (one for every 50 guests is the norm) who don't stand at the altar. They should still wear whatever your best man is wearing (i.e., a tux, nice suit), but once they are done seating the guests, they can take their seats and watch the ceremony with everyone else.
Ushers: Their Duties in Detail
Do you have 12 first cousins, 4 brothers, 3 soon-to-be brother-in-laws, and 5 best male pals? Sounds like you have a groomsman overload problem. But not to worry -- even if you can't have 20 groomsmen (a logistical nightmare), you can designate several male pals as ushers. As a rule of thumb, look to have one usher to seat every 50 guests.
DUTIES Ushers escort guests to their seats before the ceremony (guiding female guests by the arm), roll out the aisle runner (if you have one), and act as general guest guides. Designating friends and family members as ushers is a great way to include more people in your wedding day fun without overdosing on groomsmen. After all, if you have too many people traipsing up and down the aisle, your ceremony may drag on a bit.
JUNIOR USHERS If you want to include your 16-year-old brother or cousin in your wedding, make him a junior usher. He can wear a tux and accompany the older ushers, seating guests as they arrive.
Groomsmen: Their Duties in Detail
Groomsmen do more than show up in a tux for the wedding -- as the groom's close friends and relatives, they support him throughout the wedding planning process. Take your role as groomsman seriously -- after all, you're helping one of your best buds through what can be a very nerve-racking day. Plus, if you act like the levelheaded, responsible guy you are, you'll impress those single bridesmaids. Read on for a rundown of your duties.
Like the bridesmaids, you'll have to pay for your wedding gear. Luckily, you can usually rent a tux for quite a bit less than what the bridesmaids' dresses will cost. Be sure to get fitted at the specified store with time to spare -- you don't want to walk down the aisle in floods!
Attending all pre-wedding festivities (engagement party, couple shower, bachelor party, rehearsal dinner). Perks: Free vittles and drinks.
Helping the best man plan the groom's bachelor party. Perks: Good food, drinks, and perhaps some insights into female anatomy.
You'll conspire with the best man -- and the bridesmaids -- to decorate the honeymoon getaway car in style.
Before the ceremony, you may be asked to usher guests to their seats. At traditional Christian ceremonies, guests of the bride's family sit on the left, and guests of the groom's family sit on the right. At Jewish ceremonies, it's the opposite. When a couple arrives, take the woman's arm and escort her to her seat; her escort will follow you. Always seat the oldest woman first if several guests arrive together. You should arrive at the ceremony site at least 45 minutes early to review special seating requirements.
Be prepared to serve as information central, directing guests to restroom facilities and to the reception site.
Purchase a wedding present, perhaps with one of the other groomsmen. This provides more buying power, and two heads are better than one when it comes to gift ideas. Sometimes the entire groomsmen gang pitches in for one knock-them-off-their-feet wedding gift.
At the reception, you may be introduced with the bridesmaid you escorted during the recessional. You may also be asked to dance with bridesmaids or single female guests during the evening. Wow, how easy is this?
