Is this fair, should I be upset?

littlecat Posted: Mar 08, 2003 12:41 AM

Is this fair, should I be upset?

When I got engaged my mom said that my Aunt wanted to throw me my shower - I thought, WOW that is really nice of her (she also threw another relative's shower). Now I heard that she was planning to throw it in Conneticut where she lives (1 1/2 hours away from LI) - my mom and I thought NO WAY! I didn't think it was fair for everyone. I told my mom that I didn't want that and now I don't think she is going to throw it for me anymore because we would have to rent a place here. I am a little upset and feel bad for my mom, am I wrong?

karenJ Posted: Mar 08, 2003 07:07 AM

Re: Is this fair, should I be upset?

Can you speak to your aunt and explain the situation? Maybe she can help your mom plan a shower at a venue more convenient.

Don't feel bad. I am sure your mom has your best interest at heart and would throw you something anyway. She probably wants to surprise you.

Good luck

Karen

janatlantica Posted: Mar 08, 2003 07:31 AM

Re: Is this fair, should I be upset?

I don't know if this would help, but its not unheard of to have 2 showers with two groups of people. Family can go to your aunt's shower and then maybe friends can throw you another one. This way, no hurt feelings...Just an idea. Hope it works out for you.

NovemberSue Posted: Mar 08, 2003 08:58 AM

Re: Is this fair, should I be upset?

Usually when someone throws a shower,it is somewhere convenient for the bride and her friends and family. Why would your Aunt have it all the way in Connecticut when she is the only one who lives there? I think someone should talk to her.