Is This Normal??????

We sent out our save the dates in april. FH's mom gave me all the addresses, and said to invite all the 3rd cousins.

I am NOT inviting my 3rd cousins because its just going to be to many people, but i did what she said.

So getting back, they get an STD in the mail from one of FH's 3rd cousins, not addressed to family just FFIL and FMIL.

NOW i am PISSEDD They got our STD in april and knew they were invited, and then they send out their STD in june for their may 17th wedding.
and we dont get an invite.

They have a website and although ive never met them i feel like writing something on there sarcastic.

I dont get why they did not invite us when they knew we were inviting them

Think of it the other way around , maybe they cant afford it.

BUT....i didnt get invited to my 1st cousins wedding and totally understand how you feel.

'no kids' IM 25

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Posted by Espo22

i would bring it up to FMIL

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I did bring it up to her, she showed me the STD they sent her. They are going to the wedding as well. She just thought it was the right thing to do to invite everyone including 3rd cousins.

The wedding is in florida, i mean its 2 weeks before our wedding, the least they could of done was send an STD. But now that they have the STD already, i have to send them an invite to the wedding, wich i really dont want to do since they are not inviting us.

But how can i not send them an invite when they have an STD

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Posted by TheFutureMrsM

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Posted by Espo22

i would bring it up to FMIL

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I did bring it up to her, she showed me the STD they sent her. They are going to the wedding as well. She just thought it was the right thing to do to invite everyone including 3rd cousins.

The wedding is in florida, i mean its 2 weeks before our wedding, the least they could of done was send an STD. But now that they have the STD already, i have to send them an invite to the wedding, wich i really dont want to do since they are not inviting us.

But how can i not send them an invite when they have an STD

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well from now on don't let her tell you anything else you should do hopefully she learned her lesson

Hmmm i agree about once you send out an std you have to send an invite but after this i think they'll know why they didn't receive an invitation

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Posted by MikeandJess

I woudln't write anything on their website but I do agree with you that you should be invited if you invited them. Maybe Lee can bring it up to his mother, she might know why they did this (like if it was because they were on a budget)

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hahaa, i would never write something on the website, but it came across my mind, but i know better than that lol
His mom has no idea why they didnt invite us

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by TheFutureMrsM

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Posted by Espo22

i would bring it up to FMIL

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I did bring it up to her, she showed me the STD they sent her. They are going to the wedding as well. She just thought it was the right thing to do to invite everyone including 3rd cousins.

The wedding is in florida, i mean its 2 weeks before our wedding, the least they could of done was send an STD. But now that they have the STD already, i have to send them an invite to the wedding, wich i really dont want to do since they are not inviting us.

But how can i not send them an invite when they have an STD

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well from now on don't let her tell you anything else you should do hopefully she learned her lesson

Hmmm i agree about once you send out an std you have to send an invite but after this i think they'll know why they didn't receive an invitation

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U know your right, if i dont send them an invite, they will know why they didnt get it. They are both very educated according to their Bio's he has a masters and she is going for her Doctorate. I am sure they will figure it out!!!!

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Posted by TheFutureMrsM

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by TheFutureMrsM

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Posted by Espo22

i would bring it up to FMIL

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I did bring it up to her, she showed me the STD they sent her. They are going to the wedding as well. She just thought it was the right thing to do to invite everyone including 3rd cousins.

The wedding is in florida, i mean its 2 weeks before our wedding, the least they could of done was send an STD. But now that they have the STD already, i have to send them an invite to the wedding, wich i really dont want to do since they are not inviting us.

But how can i not send them an invite when they have an STD

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well from now on don't let her tell you anything else you should do hopefully she learned her lesson

Hmmm i agree about once you send out an std you have to send an invite but after this i think they'll know why they didn't receive an invitation

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U know your right, if i dont send them an invite, they will know why they didnt get it. They are both very educated according to their Bio's he has a masters and she is going for her Doctorate. I am sure they will figure it out!!!!

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yeah not like they can complain about it...But if they change their mind and invite you or maybe they just didn't send out alot of std's, their wedding is before yours so you would get an invite from them first, so just play it by ear

I dont think that would be the right thing to do.

Just because you choose to invite someone to YOUR wedding, doesnt mean that NOW they have to invite you. As most people have said on here they can not invite all the people they would like to or that others would like them to because they cannot afford it. These 3rd cousins may be paying for their own wedding and may not be able to afford to have their 3rd cousins there, or they may have a VERY large immediate family.


I would just let it go.

I would so go on the website and say
'we are so happy about your engagement, congrats! Btw love the save the date's you sent out they were very pretty' on the bright side since you won't be getting an invitation you aren't obligated to send out a gift!

I don't think anyone should feel obligated to invite people simply b/c they were invited to their wedding.

Perhaps they are on a budget.