Is this normal???

Is this normal???

I know that there are a lot of posts about RSVP's but tomorrow is our RSVP date and we still have 165 people that have not responded We decided to give everyone a week 'grace period' before we start harassing people but does this seem like a lot? We invite 395 so it's a little less than half that we haven't heard from. Just wondering if anyone else has experienced this.

TIA

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That's a lot but you will be surprised how many you receive the week after. I had a few people send their response card in 3 weeks after the deadline

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Give it another two weeks since this is a holdiay weekend after that start calling sometimes people forget or misplace invite.

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and remember-no mail tomorrow! so def. wait a couple days!

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Wow that's a lot! People are unbelievable!

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Unfortunately this is all too familiar to almost all of us...I would give it about 8-9 days and then start calling due to Labor Day and school starting, etc. (People are so rude!!!! Especially people that have planned weddings before...they should know better !!!!!!!!!!!!) You have my sympathies....

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that is alot...mine is still at about 40 missing RSVP's...

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I didnt send mine out yet.. but, if I dont get the responses. I AM NOT calling anyone. People can be so rude, and I will damned that if in addition to everything else I have to do, will I CALL THEM. absolutely not. You cant respond - then dont come.

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it sounds like we are in the exact same boat!!!!

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Yikes......that is alot. I bet you will get a ton on tuesday.

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Thanks girls for the reassurance. Lots of people have been verbally telling us, my parents and FIL's if they are coming or not but I am standing firm on my decision that without an RSVP, then you get NO SEAT!!!!!
Even my sister's boyfriend who is a groomsman says to me - 'I filled it out and t's on my steps' and I'm like 'well I hope you have a nice staircase b/c that's where you will be sitting for the wedding Even the best man hasnt sent his b/c he is undecided about who he is bringing as a guest Of course I know he will be there but I really need to RSVP's to stay organized, I mean really, people can't expect me to keep track of 350 people off the top of my head!!!!!

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That's not a lot.. I was waiting for over 100 cards back out of 220 invites on my RSVP date.. I gave 1 more week and they poured in that week.. I ended up having to call about 20 people.. I'd say it's pretty normal.. I HATE when people do this.. People don't realize that the bride and groom are under enough stress and they already have a billion things to do.. Who really has time and patience to sit there calling all those lazy people

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WOW THATS A LOT BUT GIVE THEM ANOTHER WEEK AND THEN START MAKING PHONE CALLS. DID YOU HAVE ODDD SHAPED INVITES THAT MAY HAVE BEEN DIFFICULT TO BE DELIVERED?

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nope, my RSVP date was a week ago and still missing alot of ppl. I will have to call all of them