is this offensive...

christy Posted: Mar 22, 2003 11:42 PM

is this offensive...

if we end our wedding with 'my way' by Frank Sinatra,
FH and I have done this whole wedding totally on our own, with no support. I thought it was fitting, but now he thinks it may be rude!
What do you think?

lilmrs Posted: Mar 22, 2003 11:52 PM

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I think that only you guys will know the true meaning to the song! Ending your night with a Frank song is not uncommen! Go for it!

SomedayBride Posted: Mar 22, 2003 11:52 PM

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Honestly, I don't think your guests will make the connection. The song starts 'And now, the end is near....' It's been the last song at many weddings I've been to, and I've never thought, oh this must be because the bride and groom paid for the whole thing and so they did it their way. Maybe it's just me, I don't really think people will be looking for a deeper meaning though.

Sunny Posted: Mar 23, 2003 12:08 AM

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I agree- no one will know. It's a great song!

janatlantica Posted: Mar 23, 2003 12:25 AM

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Not rude at all! Do it!!

Valenia Posted: Mar 23, 2003 08:42 AM

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Whether or not the guests get it isn't the measure of it being rude. In my opinion, I think its sad to be ending your night on such a bitter note. Its kind of like you are saying screw you to the people around you whether or not they know it -- at a time you should just be happy.

If it was just a song you loved, I'd say go for it. Its the fact that you want it so you can think 'Ha ha' to the non-supporters that bothers me.

LaurenG Posted: Mar 23, 2003 08:43 AM

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I agree, if you want to definately do it !

112903 Posted: Mar 23, 2003 09:22 AM

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I think it is perfect

HeatherandNick Posted: Mar 23, 2003 10:03 AM

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Go for it. It can be your little secret.

allure Posted: Mar 23, 2003 10:31 AM

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I love the idea I will be doing Hit The Road Jack

bride04 Posted: Mar 23, 2003 10:48 AM

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I think you should do it if you want to. I'm sure no one would realize why you chose the song. But, I do agree with what Valenia said. I totally understand how you feel about paying for the whole thing, but how will you feel when they play the song? If you'll be happy then go for it, but if it makes you feel bitter or resentful then I would pick a different song. You should be in a happy mood all day!