Is this ridiculous..or am I overreacting?

Original post by R&J0806

Apr 13, 2006 01:05 PM

My dad's girlfriend's mother gave me a gift for my shower 1 1/2 weeks ago. My dad's girlfriend has since asked TWICE where her mother's thank you card is.

I didn't think 1 1/2 weeks was a long time to send out a thank you but maybe i'm wrong? Or is she overreacting?????

Katie&Chris2006 Posted: Apr 13, 2006 02:57 PM

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Posted by afrodyt2000

I think she's overreacting. We're you supposed to start doing the thank you cards as soon as the party ended?

AGreed. W T F?

brittny817 Posted: Apr 13, 2006 03:01 PM

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Posted by vixchik

Posted by cindyandkevin

Posted by dianadrw

That's crazy. It's been a week and a half! Not a year and a half! Reminds me of the Everybody Loves Raymond episode when Robert & Amy get married and they come home from their honeymoon and Marie is asking them about their thank you notes. Hopefully you are not dealing w/ a Marie Barone.

I remember that!!!!!!!

Seriously tho, just write her a quick TY and send it out even if you haven't done the others yet. This way at least she's off your back about it.

(sorry, this is a little off topic, but might make you laugh) That reminds me of FH's grandmother....after our e-party, i sent out thank yous rather quickly because FMIL made it clear it was expected of me to get them out fast to the grandparents (which really wouldn't have mattered in reality) so the first one i write out is FH's dad's mom's b/c she gave us honestly, the most meaningful gifts......well, she also spent the entire summer and part of fall with her sister in WV instead of in her home in cocoa beach....so in OCTOBER when she decided to go home, she can't find it anywhere and causes a big ruckus as FH thinks i purposely didn't send her one. I wanted to smack her....instead i wrote out a new one.....but it was a total 'Marie' moment!!!!

LOL I totally remember that episode!

Like Marie Barone, she is over-reacting. It could have gotten lost in the mail for all she knows. Gimme a break, as if you don't have enough going on right now planning a weddings. Don't let this get to you. Some people are just hyper-sensitive.

MrsMagoo Posted: Apr 13, 2006 03:18 PM

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That is just rediculous! She is def overreacting. Usually a month is the cut off...somewhere in that time frame...not a week!!

2Be1 Posted: Apr 13, 2006 03:22 PM

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Posted by ilovejohn

First of all, you have at least 4 weeks to send out a shower thank you...

Second of all.... who ASKS for a Thank YOU????

SERIOUSLY

MrsR72806 Posted: Apr 13, 2006 03:35 PM

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Posted by ilovejohn

First of all, you have at least 4 weeks to send out a shower thank you...

Second of all.... who ASKS for a Thank YOU????

exactly!

werock0709 Posted: Apr 13, 2006 03:49 PM

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I think she should mind her business

ginaandtommy06 Posted: Apr 13, 2006 07:30 PM

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Sounds like a bit of a control freak. The simplest thing you can do is just send the card and then avoid talking to your dad's girlfriend ever again. She's always going to be a control freak (if that's her problem) and it's always going to be irritating for you.

JohnnysGirl350 Posted: Apr 13, 2006 09:40 PM

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Posted by Cali

Who ASKS for a thank you??? Thats ridiculous!

Have to agree with this...

sr081906 Posted: Apr 13, 2006 09:45 PM

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I guess if you were not working (like the 'good old days') and making pies all day, you would time to do in 2 days. Unfortunatelly, in today's time 2-4 weeks is reasonable. JMHO.

babybug631 Posted: Apr 13, 2006 09:51 PM

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I would be annoyed.

mskittynj Posted: Apr 13, 2006 10:16 PM

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You are NOT overreacting! It's only a week and a half...she needs to get over it!!!
XOXOXO
Kitty

BKtoLI Posted: Apr 13, 2006 10:39 PM

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It took me almost 2 weeks to write and send mine out, and had I not had it in the back of my head to get it done, it might have taken longer!!!

It is extremely ridiculous and borderline rude to ASK for a thank you!!!

DandS Posted: Apr 13, 2006 10:49 PM

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Posted by MJDoc12

i think she's over-reacting. her mom is probably trying to be all 'traditional' and thinks a TY should be sent IMMEDIATELY after the gift.

i think it's SOOOOO tacky to have ppl ask for TY card. i mean did you send the gift for the SOLE purpose of receiving acknowledgement?!

Well Said!

PrincessRose Posted: Apr 14, 2006 08:54 AM

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Posted by Cali

Who ASKS for a thank you???

Once you have your wedding, you will understand that the answer to this question is 'Everybody.'

My FIL *did* in fact start asking us about thank you notes the day we got back from our honeymoon. Apparently he went to another wedding the week before ours and had already gotten a TY from that, so of course we had to do likewise.

Then, about a month later, I got the following phone call from MIL - 'Grandma's upset that she hasn't gotten a TY yet, so she's decided that she isn't going to send anymore presents. ' What am I, 5??? You think that you are going to put the fear of 'no more presents' in me when I have done nothing wrong? Fine - I don't want presents if you're going to ***** about not getting a card soon enough.

Seriously, tell your Dad's Girlfriend that ettiquette states you have two weeks after receiving a gift before the wedding so she needs to CHILL.