DH's brother has not gotten us a xmas gift for the last 10 xmas we have been together. We have always gotten him a gift, his now exwife, and now two ex step kids, and our niece. He hasn't even given us a wedding gift. He has a daughter who I said I will get a gift for but DH says we have to get his brother one too. I know its the thought but really we are tight on $ and he never gets us or even DH a gift. Am I mean not to want to give my heard earned $ to get him a gift?
Karsav7096
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IMO opinion NO you are not mean. If it was me I would have stopped buying him a gift years ago. But if it is going to cause a fight with your DH I would suggest maybe an inexpensive gift to keep the peace. This is one of those things where I think picking and choosing your fights is in order. Good luck!!
Mrs. Bernabe
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I think your covered by getting his kid. My DH say x-mas is more for kids. You BIL should be content that you guys got his son something. When there's no mula there's no mula...your BIL is an adult and he can understand that...plus he doesn't get you guys anything, you guys should not worry so much about him.
MrsList09
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I wouldn't get him one. Maybe his kids because it's not their fault their father is an ungracious person, but definitely not him.
krislee316
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Just get for the Niece. And dont feel bad times are tough right now and he should understand that!
KerriJohnS
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I wouldn't get him one. Maybe his kids because it's not their fault their father is an ungracious person, but definitely not him.
I 100% AGREE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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sophisticat13
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No...you've been more than generous with him and he hasn't reciprocated, so I wouldn't get him anything I would have stopped a long time ago, you are a really nice person lol!!! Get the niece something small and call it a day...you don't owe him anything (as bad as that sounds, it's true!!)
Nitania13
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F*** THAT!!! Hell no! This cheapskate hasn't gotten either of you a gift in 10 YEARS or a wedding gift and your DH wants to still get him a gift? I'm not cheap and believe in getting my loved ones very generous gifts, but I don't believe in being a sucker!! If you want to donate to charity call Toys for Tots, not give to him. He just sounds like a mooch! JMO, but I would put an end to it. After a while, that's just wrong! He didn't even have to get you guys something big. It really is the thought that counts. But to get you nothing? Not even something small and modest? Nah-ahh!
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i dont think ur wrong at all.. Maybe it might even help him get the hint if u dont get him something! good luck
