Is this wrong?......

kbashy Posted: Oct 03, 2009 12:27 PM

Is this wrong?......

Just wondering.....Let's say you spend over $550 to be in a good friend's wedding (for dress, shoes, bridal shower expenses, etc). Do you also give the bride and groom a wedding gift. Or is your presence, support and money throughout the wedding process a sufficient gift???

whtevjenny Posted: Oct 03, 2009 12:29 PM

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Posted by kbashy

Just wondering.....Let's say you spend over $550 to be in a good friend's wedding (for dress, shoes, bridal shower expenses, etc). Do you also give the bride and groom a wedding gift. Or is your presence, support and money throughout the wedding process a sufficient gift???

I get what you're saying, totally, but i think you are still expected to give a gift. Good question!

jenturch Posted: Oct 03, 2009 12:41 PM

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I've spent a lot more than that between dress shoes etc, hair, makeup, bridal shower, and Bachelorette Party and still gave a very nice gift. I think its the right thing to do.

kbashy Posted: Oct 03, 2009 12:58 PM

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Thanks ladies :)

gina409 Posted: Oct 03, 2009 01:55 PM

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i still give a gift

meara Posted: Oct 03, 2009 02:30 PM

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yup . still have to give a gift. . weddings are expensive to be in. . feel the same way when I travel but still awlays give something!

MrsCM Posted: Oct 03, 2009 02:36 PM

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I'd give a gift, even if you can't afford much, just something.

I had a BM complain about money the entire time so I pretty much bought everything for her. Last minute she decided to pay $120 for her own dress but that was her only contribution and she didn't so much as give me a card let alone a gift and it stung a little.

ttdiff11 Posted: Oct 03, 2009 02:53 PM

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yea i actually usually give more when im in the bridal party as a gfit

sophisticat13 Posted: Oct 03, 2009 03:22 PM

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I agree with the other girls, even if you spent a lot of money...giving a gift is still proper etiquette. The hope is that when you get married, the ppl that you were there for will also be there for you

allegracristina Posted: Oct 03, 2009 03:57 PM

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Posted by gina409

i still give a gift

Me too...

little34 Posted: Oct 03, 2009 04:02 PM

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I say do what you can afford especially in these times but for ME I would never not give a gift on top of everything I have done to be in the bp.

Amberrenee6705 Posted: Oct 03, 2009 04:50 PM

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Even if its something small, Id definitly still give a thoughtful gift

KittyGags Posted: Oct 03, 2009 04:54 PM

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Still give a gift. I know for my best friend's wedding, we discussed not exchanging though because we were getting married 3 months apart...

KerriJohnS Posted: Oct 03, 2009 05:10 PM

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You give a gift.

KerriJohnS Posted: Oct 03, 2009 05:11 PM

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Posted by ttdiff11

yea i actually usually give more when im in the bridal party as a gfit

I would think I would do the same. but I've never been in a BP before.

KerriJohnS Posted: Oct 03, 2009 05:12 PM

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Posted by seawedding

I'd give a gift, even if you can't afford much, just something.

I had a BM complain about money the entire time so I pretty much bought everything for her. Last minute she decided to pay $120 for her own dress but that was her only contribution and she didn't so much as give me a card let alone a gift and it stung a little.

haha.. this is forshadowing for my wedding!!!

Allegra.... hahaha... don't you agree?? i'm sure we are thinking about the same person!!!

glenisland09 Posted: Oct 03, 2009 06:12 PM

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I'd definitely still give a gift... even something small if you can't financially manage something more.

The way I look at it... if you accept being in someone's bridal party you are accepting all the additional expenses that come with it.

hope this helps

springsandra Posted: Oct 03, 2009 06:14 PM

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My best friend (MOH) gave me a really nice brand new coach bag for my shower gift and didn't give us a wedding gift. I didn't expect one from her at all. She spent enough on me already.

You have to do what works for you. If you can afford a little something, it's certainly a nice gesture -- even a card and a picture frame is really sweet. But it's up to you.