Issue with friend's shower....
I'm the MOH at my friend's wedding in Oct. She lives in FL now, moving to NC in the summer. The BMs and I are making arrangements for her bachelorette party which will be in Virginia where her parents live- it will be in the summer. The shower will be held in the late morning and the bach. at night.
I called the bride today to get some info on guest lists- and in the middle of our conversation asked who was throwing her the shower. We had talked about this when she had gotten engaged months back and she said that she thinks her mom and their neighbor were doing it. Well, today she says that I'm in charge and that it's up to me. I said, oh, well, I didn't know that- where are we going to do it? She says, Oh we can do it at my mom's.
I didn't say much more about it bc I am kind of confused. I don't mind organizing it while I'm organizing the bach. party. But does that mean I have to cover the costs of the shower too or share the costs of the shower with the other BMs? Plus, it seems a little awkward that I would arrange for the food/drinks when I'm coming from NY and her mom is right there!!
At my bach, my MOH (not the girl who is getting married now) and the BMs took care of everything. But a close friend of my mom's threw one of my showers. I know etiquette says that family members don't throw showers for the bride but I didn't think it would be up to the BMs to do the shower as well!!
What do you think??
I called the bride today to get some info on guest lists- and in the middle of our conversation asked who was throwing her the shower. We had talked about this when she had gotten engaged months back and she said that she thinks her mom and their neighbor were doing it. Well, today she says that I'm in charge and that it's up to me. I said, oh, well, I didn't know that- where are we going to do it? She says, Oh we can do it at my mom's.
I didn't say much more about it bc I am kind of confused. I don't mind organizing it while I'm organizing the bach. party. But does that mean I have to cover the costs of the shower too or share the costs of the shower with the other BMs? Plus, it seems a little awkward that I would arrange for the food/drinks when I'm coming from NY and her mom is right there!!
At my bach, my MOH (not the girl who is getting married now) and the BMs took care of everything. But a close friend of my mom's threw one of my showers. I know etiquette says that family members don't throw showers for the bride but I didn't think it would be up to the BMs to do the shower as well!!
What do you think??
