It has started...grrrrr

We just got our first RSVP with more than we invited checked off. We invited a cousin and his gf on my fiances side and they checked off 3 people. Which means they are trying to bring the gf's kid. AHHHH!!!!

Our invitation clearly states 'Adults Only' reception and it was addressed to Mr. John Doe & Ms. Mary Wilson. Not them and also Ms. Wilson's kid!!!!

What is wrong with people? I didn't even invite some of my older cousins with dates b/c our guest list was getting out of hand. Why would I want some lady's kid at my wedding, when she isn't even family??!!!???

This is not going to be fun to try and handle. I don't know how to proceed from here.

Any feedback??

Well it's my fiance's cousin. So I'm going to wait to talk to him tonight after work. This is just so uncomfortable. I really don't want to deal with it, but I'm always the one who has to 'man up' and deal with things.

Yeah it is def sticky. FH will have to handle it, he just doesn't have the best family communication. My FH is 6'7' and about 275lbs....but a big baby when it comes to having to speak up for himself. It really is funny how often I do all the 'hard and uncomfortable' stuff.

He also has an Aunt that is not afraid to speak her mind, so maybe she would be willing to help us with this dilemma.

I'm sorry to disagree with some of the posters, but I don't think it is sticky at all! They are the rude people. You clearly addressed the invitation to 2 people only, that means only 2 people are invited. Also, you clearly stated it's Adults Only! What I would do in your shoes ( and I can't wait until someone tries to pull this cr@p with me) is call up my cousin and say ' sorry, there must be some confusion, but I only addressed the invite to you and Jane. ' If he has the b@lls to say something back, simply say' sorry, the invitation is just for the 2 of you, I understand if you need to change your response to no'. Thas' it, end of story.

Good Luck, stick to your guns, because if you don't , you are going to find yourself making lots of concessions you didn't plan on.

I hope I don't seem harsh, it just makes me so mad when people are so rude!

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Posted by MrsBlueRibbon

I'm sorry to disagree with some of the posters, but I don't think it is sticky at all! They are the rude people. You clearly addressed the invitation to 2 people only, that means only 2 people are invited. Also, you clearly stated it's Adults Only! What I would do in your shoes ( and I can't wait until someone tries to pull this cr@p with me) is call up my cousin and say ' sorry, there must be some confusion, but I only addressed the invite to you and Jane. ' If he has the b@lls to say something back, simply say' sorry, the invitation is just for the 2 of you, I understand if you need to change your response to no'. Thas' it, end of story.

Good Luck, stick to your guns, because if you don't , you are going to find yourself making lots of concessions you didn't plan on.

I hope I don't seem harsh, it just makes me so mad when people are so rude!

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Oh, yeah I totally agree. It's just that he's not MY cousin. If he were MY cousin, I would've already called his ace to tell him it aint happening. I don't really know FH's cousin that well....met him twice for about 30 minutes each time.

So FH should handle this, correct?

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Posted by MrsBlueRibbon

I'm sorry to disagree with some of the posters, but I don't think it is sticky at all! They are the rude people. You clearly addressed the invitation to 2 people only, that means only 2 people are invited. Also, you clearly stated it's Adults Only! What I would do in your shoes ( and I can't wait until someone tries to pull this cr@p with me) is call up my cousin and say ' sorry, there must be some confusion, but I only addressed the invite to you and Jane. ' If he has the b@lls to say something back, simply say' sorry, the invitation is just for the 2 of you, I understand if you need to change your response to no'. Thas' it, end of story.

Good Luck, stick to your guns, because if you don't , you are going to find yourself making lots of concessions you didn't plan on.

I hope I don't seem harsh, it just makes me so mad when people are so rude!

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Sorry for crashing, ITA......This was my exact thought as I just read through.

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Posted by duggdugg1

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Posted by MrsBlueRibbon

I'm sorry to disagree with some of the posters, but I don't think it is sticky at all! They are the rude people. You clearly addressed the invitation to 2 people only, that means only 2 people are invited. Also, you clearly stated it's Adults Only! What I would do in your shoes ( and I can't wait until someone tries to pull this cr@p with me) is call up my cousin and say ' sorry, there must be some confusion, but I only addressed the invite to you and Jane. ' If he has the b@lls to say something back, simply say' sorry, the invitation is just for the 2 of you, I understand if you need to change your response to no'. Thas' it, end of story.

Good Luck, stick to your guns, because if you don't , you are going to find yourself making lots of concessions you didn't plan on.

I hope I don't seem harsh, it just makes me so mad when people are so rude!

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Oh, yeah I totally agree. It's just that he's not MY cousin. If he were MY cousin, I would've already called his ace to tell him it aint happening. I don't really know FH's cousin that well....met him twice for about 30 minutes each time.

So FH should handle this, correct?

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True , good luck!

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Posted by duggdugg1

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Posted by MrsBlueRibbon

I'm sorry to disagree with some of the posters, but I don't think it is sticky at all! They are the rude people. You clearly addressed the invitation to 2 people only, that means only 2 people are invited. Also, you clearly stated it's Adults Only! What I would do in your shoes ( and I can't wait until someone tries to pull this cr@p with me) is call up my cousin and say ' sorry, there must be some confusion, but I only addressed the invite to you and Jane. ' If he has the b@lls to say something back, simply say' sorry, the invitation is just for the 2 of you, I understand if you need to change your response to no'. Thas' it, end of story.

Good Luck, stick to your guns, because if you don't , you are going to find yourself making lots of concessions you didn't plan on.

I hope I don't seem harsh, it just makes me so mad when people are so rude!

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Oh, yeah I totally agree. It's just that he's not MY cousin. If he were MY cousin, I would've already called his ace to tell him it aint happening. I don't really know FH's cousin that well....met him twice for about 30 minutes each time.

So FH should handle this, correct?

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Sorry, I read your OP too fast, you did say it is FH's cousin! Yes, I would have FH handle it. If he doesn't or won't, then I guess it will have to fall on you! Hopefully, it won't fall on you!

I would call HIM and NOT his girlfriend and politely explain that the wedding is adults only.

EDA: Just read your 2nd post...let your fiance handle it!!! Don't be the bad guy!