Yup, you read that correctly. I received so many nice, generous things from relatives and friends. . .except from FH's cousin. She regifted some stupid Body Shop foot care thing and a marriage book FROM HER OWN SHOWER TWO MONTHS AGO. We figured it out when FH found the 'To FH Cousin, from Elizabeth & Rachel' tag IN THE BOTTOM OF THE BAG. Invites are already out, so we can't take hers away.
How do we handle this? FMIL is LIVID, and I haven't even told my mom about this yet.
Jennmolloy
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O M G!!! I am not sure what to say or how to handle!! I am just in shock!!!!!!
mlcvln129
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It's not like the girl is being affected by the economy. . .she's marrying a DOCTOR and her family is loaded. And even if they couldn't afford a big shower gift, you still DON'T REGIFT. I really, REALLY want to say something to her (because she ran out before the shower ended and since it was a display table shower, I didn't spend time opening gifts during the party). . .FH and FFIL think we should be the bigger people and not make a big deal. UMM. . .no, men.
Jennmolloy
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I think that I would defintiely say something. I would have rather someone say that 'I am sorry things are tight right now and I can't get a gift' then to regift one (whether or not she really can). Talk about selfish!!
mlcvln129
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It's more the principle of the gift than the $$$ of the gift. I had people who have literally NO MONEY still go out of their way to do something small yesterday. I just. . .UGH. It's going to bother me all day at work, and I know I have to find a way to say something so that she knows what she did was wrong.
HotAir
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I wouldn't say anything. Is it really worth the stress? Just be the better person and let it go.
CollBride09
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I would let it go... you don't want family drama right before your wedding. It was not a nice thing for her to do but at least you now know what kind of person she is.
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omg I dunno what to say that is soo f-ed up I would of prefered someone tell me they can't come cause they can't afford a shower gift then do that seriously,
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LOL WOW! I would totally say something! That is crap- it really is. I don't get it why these people who have the means are the cheapest ones out there sometimes. I had the same situation at my shower. You really learn something about people during the 'gift' process.
All in all, glad you had a wonderful shower.
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i dont know about you i like to make people aware that I know and they cant get it pass me..i would be like 'thanks for the foot care and book...how did it work for you because i remember you got one for your shower' she is in the wrong and maybe she will realize that is wrong if she doesnt she will learn not to regift to another who was at the event...dummy
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Include the tag in the thank you card. You'll get your point across and she'll feel dumb when she opens the card and realizes that you know!
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Posted by Futuremrslarkin
Include the tag in the thank you card. You'll get your point across and she'll feel dumb when she opens the card and realizes that you know!
Yes, do this and at her wedding, deduct $100 from the envelope..
mlcvln129
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Posted by Futuremrslarkin
Include the tag in the thank you card. You'll get your point across and she'll feel dumb when she opens the card and realizes that you know!
I was thinking about adding the tag into the thank you card, too. . .and then maybe saying 'how did it work for you?' LOL
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I have family who does this all the time.
I let it go. It would bother me at first but hnestly... Who cares... I would send the book back and write 'Thought you may have missed this, I think you threw it in by accident'
Somethign to that effect
mlcvln129
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I was thinking about sending the WHOLE gift back and saying, 'Got this by accident, it had your name on it!!'
MnM182008
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Be the bigger person and let it go There is no sense in hashing it out with someone.
MrsCastanedain09
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Let it go. Tell us more about the gifts your wonderful family got you. What did you ect.....life is short, don't let deadbeats take away from your great day.
She's self centered and couldn't be bothered to buy you a gift (as money is not the issue). Good to know this now.
ace730
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To play devil's advocate, are you sure it isn't the bag that she didn't regift and not the present? I re-use bags all the time for gifts.
If not, then I still wouldn't say anything. Be the better person.
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Posted by Futuremrslarkin
Include the tag in the thank you card. You'll get your point across and she'll feel dumb when she opens the card and realizes that you know!
that would be SO embarrassing for her. DO IT!
mlcvln129
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The tag was DEFINITELY from the Body Shop foot care gift kit. I had FH triple check just in case it was a reused gift bag (which I've done plenty of times as well).
I'm just really, really disappointed in how selfish she was. Makes me glad that I didn't talk to her at all during the shower. . .
