its happening again

ddnsp618 Posted: Jul 31, 2008 12:38 AM

its happening again

just taking down in case there are lurkers...thanks for the support girls!

PoppedInASnap Posted: Jul 31, 2008 12:42 AM

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Danielle,
Throw the party. Forget about them. Invite only friends and family, Whoever comes comes...Thats all. Learn from my mistakes...as ive made many and stressed for nothing.

In the long run who matters? Just you, and fh. When you are old and gray no one else will be around....and all that will matter is that you have another day togehter... You know? Thats the way i look at it now.

Whoever is happy is happy and thats it :)

ddnsp618 Posted: Jul 31, 2008 12:44 AM

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Posted by MrsFazz2B

Danielle,
Throw the party. Forget about them. Invite only friends and family, Whoever comes comes...Thats all. Learn from my mistakes...as ive made many and stressed for nothing.

In the long run who matters? Just you, and fh. When you are old and gray no one else will be around....and all that will matter is that you have another day togehter... You know? Thats the way i look at it now.

Whoever is happy is happy and thats it :)

yea but they make FH all upset and second guessing himself...its ridic...so we arent happy bc hes not happy

PoppedInASnap Posted: Jul 31, 2008 12:49 AM

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Posted by ddnsp618

Posted by MrsFazz2B

Danielle,
Throw the party. Forget about them. Invite only friends and family, Whoever comes comes...Thats all. Learn from my mistakes...as ive made many and stressed for nothing.

In the long run who matters? Just you, and fh. When you are old and gray no one else will be around....and all that will matter is that you have another day togehter... You know? Thats the way i look at it now.

Whoever is happy is happy and thats it :)

yea but they make FH all upset and second guessing himself...its ridic...so we arent happy bc hes not happy

ughh. See, thats the worst. He needs to learn to stand up for himself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Are you living together?

ttdiff11 Posted: Jul 31, 2008 06:17 AM

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im soo sorry! id have the party, with or without them! u will enjoy urself anyway!! again, im so sorry....

MrsDtoBe09 Posted: Jul 31, 2008 06:37 AM

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I'm so sorry Danielle. But think about it, are those people the ONLY important people in your lives? I doubt it so just have the party and the people who really care and really love you will break whatever plans they have to be there. I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

mdawg Posted: Jul 31, 2008 06:41 AM

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i know its hard... my ex FSIL was IMPOSSIBLE and she was only a teenager! Everything had to be about her ALLLLLL the time and blah blah blah... anyway... i say just HAVE THE PARTY!!!! your FH will eventually grow a set when he realizes that its THEM being the morons! Me and my ex fiance broke up because HIS mom didnt like MY mom. how freakin ridiculous is that? (actually, im really glad it happened but thats besides the point)

anyway... once hes at the party and hes having a good time, he wont even realize theyre not there. If they cant celebrate and be happy for you, then pardon my french, but FCK them!!! I'm so done with family members trying to ruin other family members plans and lives...its ABSURD!

you and your FH are so much better than that! GOOD LUCK !!!

VickiR510 Posted: Jul 31, 2008 07:02 AM

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I think first that you need to speak with FH about this. Ask him what he feel is important &then tell him what you think. Because in life you will NEVER make everyone happy! Thats how it is especially with family. Sometimes you have to bite the bullet & do what you want! Good Luck!

dazies1011 Posted: Jul 31, 2008 07:20 AM

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Danielle dont let them ruin this for you. Have the party no matter what cause the ones that love you most and count will be there!!!

chicky724 Posted: Jul 31, 2008 08:12 AM

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Posted by MrsFazz2B

Danielle,
Throw the party. Forget about them. Invite only friends and family, Whoever comes comes...Thats all. Learn from my mistakes...as ive made many and stressed for nothing.

In the long run who matters? Just you, and fh. When you are old and gray no one else will be around....and all that will matter is that you have another day togehter... You know? Thats the way i look at it now.

Whoever is happy is happy and thats it :)

I couldn't have said it any better.

cedesnyc Posted: Jul 31, 2008 08:13 AM

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oh wow....so sorry to hear that

I know how much having the family there means, but if they're causing you so much greaf, then have a small celebration amongst friends and the ppl that care about you the most.

You and your FH happiness is what matters...everyone else is secondary...

Hang in there girl and whe are here for you

tinadansr Posted: Jul 31, 2008 08:50 AM

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sorry to hear this again hun!!! You guys need to throw the party and if they come they will. DOes he understand now that they play games? Try to explain to him that if you guys waited for his parents to approve everything you wouldnt be getting married anytime soon. Hopefully he will realize it's going on again and get sick of it. It took a while for FH to stand up to his sister and mom and he's not fully their yet but he is making an effort.

's for you and your man

flairforfashion Posted: Jul 31, 2008 10:04 AM

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Sorry to hear this is happening again! Just have the party and celebrate! Forget the party poopers who don't want to celebrate! Have a good old time with people that you love and are happy for you. I think the FIL's will come around- they have to sooner or later. It may not be now but once you are in the family, someone will have to make the effort!

MrsDrinkh20 Posted: Jul 31, 2008 10:33 AM

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You have FM

kbond06 Posted: Jul 31, 2008 10:46 AM

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I would deff. have the party. It's your party, and you're never going to accomodate everyone. If you're both happy, that is the only thing that should matter in this situation. I get so aggravated when I hear this stuff about OTHERS not liking your choices about YOUR wedding....It's like, why can't you be soo mad at the uncles and relatives that can't come? If there not chaning their plans for you to make it the second time, then why should you always keep accomodating everone else. Do whats best for you both and it sounds like NOT chaning things for others is the best way to go

DivinelyConnected Posted: Jul 31, 2008 10:52 AM

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Like someone else said...talk to FH and discover how he REALLY feels. Because honestly if he's letting how his parents are acting dictate his happiness with you, that's going to cause problems not only in pre wedding days but in your marriage itself.

ddnsp618 Posted: Jul 31, 2008 11:01 AM

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thanks girls for your kind words..

Future Mrs Roo Posted: Jul 31, 2008 11:28 AM

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I would still have the party and whoever comes comes. It seems they are intentionally making difficult for you and your Fh.

Dani777 Posted: Jul 31, 2008 11:29 AM

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He neeeds to stand up for himself... they shouldn't be just putting him down and insulting him. This is supposed to be a FUN HAPPY time... and it's about the two of YOU...not anyone else. What if you both distanced yourselves from them just foer a little while. If they don't come, then they don't come. You guys will still have a blast!

Aristotelina Posted: Jul 31, 2008 11:31 AM

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Oh man, I am SO sorry that you are going through this!! Def talk to FH and hopefully you guys can have a united front against them and STILL go on with the party. I would say to them that if you have to reschedule the party one more time, then THEY have to pay for it!!!