after 6years together and 3years of marriage one of my bm is seperating from her husband they both have found new places to live and will be moving in two weeks. they just put the house on the market.
i am so sad for her. she keeps telling me not to be. that things happen for a reason.
but heres my problem. the girls have yet to decide on gowns when is the latest i can order them? how & when do i bring this up?
i feel weird talking weddings when shes going through this.
advice.......pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
mrsdraskin2009
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Sheesh!
Give the girl a break! Her life is not supposed to revolve around you! I can't believe your THAT girl who's more concerned about her wedding than her friend's marriage falling apart
Honestly, you know her best. If she seems amenable, bring it up. She knows she's involved, she expects you'll talk to her about it. She might need some time to get things straightened out, but I'm sure you'll know if/when you can bring it up.
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It sounds like she's actually ok with the whole thing, considering her 'things happen' attitude.
I'd wait a couple weeks and then speak with her. Something along the lines of, 'I know this is a terrible time to bring this up but, we kind of need to choose a gown.'
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Honestly, you know her best. If she seems amenable, bring it up. She knows she's involved, she expects you'll talk to her about it. She might need some time to get things straightened out, but I'm sure you'll know if/when you can bring it up.
Thats what i was thinking... you just have to make that judgement call on when to do it...
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and my bm dresses came in in less then 3 months... id say as long as you order by dec your golden
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Sheesh!
Give the girl a break! Her life is not supposed to revolve around you! I can't believe your THAT girl who's more concerned about her wedding than her friend's marriage falling apart
Honestly, you know her best. If she seems amenable, bring it up. She knows she's involved, she expects you'll talk to her about it. She might need some time to get things straightened out, but I'm sure you'll know if/when you can bring it up.
haha.. before I scrolled down I'm like, 'ummm.. is she serious?' Apparently you weren't.
I would be there for her as a friend and just be honest. I'd ask her how she's feeling and just bring up the necessary stuff about your wedding right now. I think you are ok waiting a month for bm dresses (I think)
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Sheesh!
Give the girl a break! Her life is not supposed to revolve around you! I can't believe your THAT girl who's more concerned about her wedding than her friend's marriage falling apart
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i kid you not!!!!!!! my heart started to pound soooo hard when i read this!!! that really was a good one!!!
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Posted by mrsdraskin2009
Sheesh!
Give the girl a break! Her life is not supposed to revolve around you! I can't believe your THAT girl who's more concerned about her wedding than her friend's marriage falling apart
.
i kid you not!!!!!!! my heart started to pound soooo hard when i read this!!! that really was a good one!!!
LOL... me too... i was in shock for a second
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[I would be there for her as a friend and just be honest. I'd ask her how she's feeling and just bring up the necessary stuff about your wedding right now. I think you are ok waiting a month for bm dresses (I think)
ive been emailing her and calling her with funny stuff. i was never the type to talk wedding stuff with her. i always waited for her to bring it up.
a month sounds great!! thanks
mrsdraskin2009
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Sheesh!
Give the girl a break! Her life is not supposed to revolve around you! I can't believe your THAT girl who's more concerned about her wedding than her friend's marriage falling apart
.
i kid you not!!!!!!! my heart started to pound soooo hard when i read this!!! that really was a good one!!!
Gotcha!!!!
Jenna_and_John
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Posted by Rosalind_75
Posted by mrsdraskin2009
Sheesh!
Give the girl a break! Her life is not supposed to revolve around you! I can't believe your THAT girl who's more concerned about her wedding than her friend's marriage falling apart
.
i kid you not!!!!!!! my heart started to pound soooo hard when i read this!!! that really was a good one!!!
LOL... me too... i was in shock for a second
Omg me too lol I kind of wanted to cry for you lol!
little j
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well she might actually want the distraction. i have 2 girls in my BP that went and are going thru breakups. one girl took me forever to even ask her to be a BM cuz it never seemed like the right time
but maybe just send an email to the entire group.
i think it will be okay. she had a wedding. she knows how it works
and if she is not feeling it, im sure she will let you know
i know it totally stinks tho... ;-(
little j
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Posted by AdriandSteve
[I would be there for her as a friend and just be honest. I'd ask her how she's feeling and just bring up the necessary stuff about your wedding right now. I think you are ok waiting a month for bm dresses (I think)
ive been emailing her and calling her with funny stuff. i was never the type to talk wedding stuff with her. i always waited for her to bring it up.
a month sounds great!! thanks
do you know what dress and where you are ordering them from?
i am the week after you and i was told no later than november (for bari jay). so i would start sooner......
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well she might actually want the distraction. i have 2 girls in my BP that went and are going thru breakups. one girl took me forever to even ask her to be a BM cuz it never seemed like the right time
but maybe just send an email to the entire group.
i think it will be okay. she had a wedding. she knows how it works
and if she is not feeling it, im sure she will let you know
i know it totally stinks tho... ;-(
I was thinking this too- it might help her to get her mind off of her problems and think about something positive.
do any of the other girls know her well? maybe you can ask them for their opinion on the topic.
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I'm going through something similar. My MOH called off her wedding earlier this year, they got back together and then broke up again. since she called off her wedding she's been really weird about wedding planning, but she's ok with the fact that she's called hers off.
I'd just give her some time. She seems ok with everything, but you know her best.
Invite her over for a girlsnight/wine night and just talk...
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do you know what dress and where you are ordering them from?
i am the week after you and i was told no later than november (for bari jay). so i would start sooner......
i think they want impressions and the bridal store by my moh/sis house said end of oct or beginning of nov
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I was thinking this too- it might help her to get her mind off of her problems and think about something positive.
do any of the other girls know her well? maybe you can ask them for their opinion on the topic.
only my moh/sis know her but i dont want to bother her either . shes going through some stuff with her daughter (which is a bm of mine) right now.
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Invite her over for a girlsnight/wine night and just talk...
i wish i could
but she lives in arizona
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Sheesh!
Give the girl a break! Her life is not supposed to revolve around you! I can't believe your THAT girl who's more concerned about her wedding than her friend's marriage falling apart
Honestly, you know her best. If she seems amenable, bring it up. She knows she's involved, she expects you'll talk to her about it. She might need some time to get things straightened out, but I'm sure you'll know if/when you can bring it up.
OMG that was awesome. Before I scrolled down I was like uhhhh uh oh theres about to be a up in here.
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Posted by mrsdraskin2009
Sheesh!
Give the girl a break! Her life is not supposed to revolve around you! I can't believe your THAT girl who's more concerned about her wedding than her friend's marriage falling apart
Honestly, you know her best. If she seems amenable, bring it up. She knows she's involved, she expects you'll talk to her about it. She might need some time to get things straightened out, but I'm sure you'll know if/when you can bring it up.
haha.. before I scrolled down I'm like, 'ummm.. is she serious?' Apparently you weren't.
I would be there for her as a friend and just be honest. I'd ask her how she's feeling and just bring up the necessary stuff about your wedding right now. I think you are ok waiting a month for bm dresses (I think)
LMAOOO me too!!! i hadnt scrolled down yet..iwas like oohh time for some
anyway...i agree w/what the girls are saying...give her a bit time...how long does it take to order the dresseS?
