It's really true that you find out a lot about people when you are getting married.
So, my shower was yesterday and I had a good time but now that it's over I am learning about all the stuff that went on. You really learn a lot about people during this time.
First of all, my MOH (sis in law) worked SO hard to make everything right and was so stressed out over a lot of things that were not going right. I find out that she called my mom several times almost in tears over problems with planning. When my mom said it's no biggie, do what you can she said 'but she is my 'sister' and I want everything to be perfect for her'![]()
That's so sweet!
On the other hand, my BM (I only have MOH & BM) did basically nothing to help. She got kinda nasty with MOH when she asked her to chip in $100 for shower. She said that she doesn't have money (which I know is not true) and if she did that, she would not be able to buy me a gift. Ok, fine. She had 1 thing to do, set up one of the games for the shower and she waited until the morning of the shower to print up the things for it. Her printer wasn't working so she didn't even end up doing that. By the way, she gave me a picture frame which was regifted. She probably should have taken out the little card that was taped inside the box which was made out to her and her FH.![]()
She also gave me flannel sheets which I am almost positive that she got for her shower. I am pretty sure that those were regifted too. Believe me, it's not the money spent, it's the thought put into it, or lack of thought that really bothers me. I would never have expected this from her.
Meanwhile I gave her fairly generous gifts for her engagement party, graduation and shower over the past year even when money was tight. Whatever.
Then you have my parent's neighbor who don't know me that well who get us about $100 worth of stuff. Meanwhile a family member who makes VERY good money and has few expenses got us a strainer that costs $19.95 full price.
It's so weird how the people who have very little were more generous than I expected and vise versa.
First of all, my MOH (sis in law) worked SO hard to make everything right and was so stressed out over a lot of things that were not going right. I find out that she called my mom several times almost in tears over problems with planning. When my mom said it's no biggie, do what you can she said 'but she is my 'sister' and I want everything to be perfect for her'
On the other hand, my BM (I only have MOH & BM) did basically nothing to help. She got kinda nasty with MOH when she asked her to chip in $100 for shower. She said that she doesn't have money (which I know is not true) and if she did that, she would not be able to buy me a gift. Ok, fine. She had 1 thing to do, set up one of the games for the shower and she waited until the morning of the shower to print up the things for it. Her printer wasn't working so she didn't even end up doing that. By the way, she gave me a picture frame which was regifted. She probably should have taken out the little card that was taped inside the box which was made out to her and her FH.
Meanwhile I gave her fairly generous gifts for her engagement party, graduation and shower over the past year even when money was tight. Whatever.
Then you have my parent's neighbor who don't know me that well who get us about $100 worth of stuff. Meanwhile a family member who makes VERY good money and has few expenses got us a strainer that costs $19.95 full price.
It's so weird how the people who have very little were more generous than I expected and vise versa.
