we are just starting to get responses back and someone in FH family has already put 4 ppl attending when we only invited the parents...why do ppl think its ok to assume that their kids can come when the invite say Mr. & Mrs. _______ not Mr. & Mrs. ____ & family.......ARGH im beyond stressed about this! FMIL is already driving me up a wall wanting to invite the world to everything...shes got 5 other kids spread it out a little!
PreshusSmurf
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I'm sorry you're dealing with this ... at least you know in advance, before they all show up at the wedding on the day of!
tricia3381
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can fh talk to this family member and explian theres simply not enough room for these people?
lisaslove
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i hear we got response like that also it stinks
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Posted by tricia3381
can fh talk to this family member and explian theres simply not enough room for these people?
Thats what I would do. Let him deal with it since its his side of the family. Perhaps they will be more understanding.
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PegaLega
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we hear this all the time and I still just dont get it....
canlynn
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I had my mom call FMIL and tell her that if our #'s allow after everyone has responded they can come.....then FH went to his moms house last night and she threw a big sob party saying that shes feeling left out and that she wants to be included....she was included in everything until she started saying i wasnt doing things how she would do it....HELLOOOOO its our wedding day! shes already had 2 of her own! im stressin out big time! FH and I are fighting over this now....this is why ppl never make it to the freaking wedding day....if ppl would just keep their noses out of things and only say their opinons whens its asked it would be soooo much better!
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I am sorry that this happened to you and it s*cks that people stink up things like YOUR WEDDING! I just posted something like this the other day since we are getting flack about not inviting kids. Your post reinforces the fact that we need to put 'Adult only reception' on our invites to avoid this craziness! I think your telling them that if you have extra room to add after those you want to come already RSVP'd is right on. Stick to your guns!
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This is something I am not looking forward to. I am lucky our parents supported the no kids policy. Only one person said she is not coming without her 3 years old. We told her she will be missed. Now she has changed her mind and is getting a sitter . Good luck with dealing with the situation and stand firm. It's your wedding not fmil don't let her guilt trip you.
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Call them and politely state that although you wish you could accomodate children that it just isn't possible due to the number of friends and family invited...and it is a decision that you and FH made before inviting guests. If that doesn't work, just say...Did you READ the freakin' invite??? good luck...hoping i don't run into this...but FH's family is all aware of my NO FREAKIN KIDS policy...haha
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I don't have any great advice, but I can't understand why people do this. It makes me so angry for you!
lilpie19
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Ugh! There are always THOSE people! Why do they just assume???
Lissy3077
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i hate when people do that... thats why i put adult reception
