On Monday night, my FI and I went to Jack and Rose. We fell in LOVE with Jack and he was so helpful! We were there from 9-1 just talking about everything!!! He was even a few HUNDRED dollars cheaper than others and offered SOOO much more!!
Here's my dilema...we are paying for all this by ourselves. And we are 100% certain we want to book him. The morning after we met with JAck we were telling my parents all about it. They were less than interested in even hearing about it...about anything....neither of them are ever excited about anything and never want to come with us and look at things..and it REALLY hurts..especially since FI family is ALL ABOUT our wedding and asks us how EVERYTHING went and is going.....my parents are jsut like..well whatever..you still have a while..and it gets me soo upset! well my dad went off on us how stupid we are cause its just flowers...we arent thinking...we are going overboard on everything..and we should walk into a florist and say ' what can i get for $800' ARE YOU KIDDING ME.....we have 30 people to get flowers for.....he jsut wont leave me alone...FI wants me to drop off the deposit..but im scared that my family will give me cr@p for it..i knwo its OUR wedding do what WE want...but how can i do all this with my family thinking its all so wrong......im so sad
SORRY SO LONG...i needed to vent to someone..FI is prob gonna lose it!!!!
cluelessbride
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This saounds like the perfect opportunity to start thinking about your new family (meaning you and FH) vs .your current family.
Do what YOU want. Your parents have no control over you, and frankly, you shouldn't care what they think about your wedding flowers or your budget. It's not their $ you are spending.
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It is your wedding and your money. You do what you want. Explain to your parents that is what you really want and they will have no choice but to understand.
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You do what *you* want! Parents have no CLUE how much things cost, and this is *your* day. Stand up for yourself, and if they get ridiculous, leave the room. You're an adult, you make your own decisions.
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I just wanted to say do what the two of you want!! I got news for you, you are planning a wedding, not a tea party. You are gonna get cr@p from everyone about everything you do. Suddenly everyone has an opinion. Even when they are not footing the bill. You're wedding day is about the two of you. Not about unwanted, unwelcomed and aggravating advice, even from those who mean well. If you love the work then go for it!! Otherwise be prepared for your day to be an image of what everyone else thinks it should be and not what you and FH wanted.
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You're the ones paying for it all, right? That makes it Truly YOUR wedding...do what YOU want.....
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I agree with everyone else..its your wedding and its even better that Jack came up chaeper than everyone else....Stand up for yourself!! when we were married, EVERYONE threw in their opinions, but we were paying for it ourselves, so we kindly told everyone to keep quiet!!! And it was worth it because our wedding was beautiful..good luck !!!!
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Posted by sandj100304
It is your wedding and your money. You do what you want. Explain to your parents that is what you really want and they will have no choice but to understand.
i agree with this, but i also kinda see your dad's point... we elected to do flowerless centerpieces because we view the prices for tall flower centerpieces to be over the top.
and you do have SO much time! my wedding is in less than 6 months and i have yet to figure out what we are going to do and who we are going to use (although i am hoping to use laurie from la blossom) for church flowers and bouquets...
do you have the band/dj and photographer picked out yet? if not, i would concentrate on those items prior to putting down a deposit on flowers...
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In the end it is your wedding. Make sure that you and your FH are happy. I understand what you are going through. When we were meeting with florists my FH was talking to his parents about it and said how one florist was around 2,000 well when he said 2 they thought 200! He was like hello her bouquet is more than 200. Of course they went on to say how crazy it was for us to spend $2,000 on flowers. Parents will always have something to say even if we don't want their opinion.
Hope you aren't sad anymore. This is supposed to be a happy time.
LIJuneBride
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It's your wedding - do what you want - spend your money the way you want. What counts is that you and FH are happy with the results.
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Hi Giorgio's Bride...sounds like your pretty upset. I think you should continue to plan the best day of your life like you are doing. Focus on the things that you and him want and don't concern your self with the fam. They will come around...even if its not til the wedding day... and then you can have the time of your life!!!! Good Luck!
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You are paying for this yourself, do what you want. When other people pay for your wedding they may have input. As it stands now, they aren't and they don't. Good luck!
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You do what you want. It is your wedding... Sorry they are not more understanding...
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I went down this morning and gave JAck my deposit Now I dont have to listen to ANYmore.it's DONE
THANKS GIRLS!!!!
deedee
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DH and I payed for our entire wedding also. It came to a point where we kept EVERYONE out of it. There were too many opinions from both sides. I knew what was right for us and what anyone else said didn't matter. It's both You and your Husband's day.
OSCARtheGROOM
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I hope everything works out for you. Its your wedding. Congrats on becoming a J&R bride!
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i agree, do what you want its YOUR wedding, you and your fiance are the ones getting married, you are paying for it... we met with jack and his flowers were alot less $$ than the other florists, we booked that day
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Posted by cluelessbride
This saounds like the perfect opportunity to start thinking about your new family (meaning you and FH) vs .your current family.
Do what YOU want. Your parents have no control over you, and frankly, you shouldn't care what they think about your wedding flowers or your budget. It's not their $ you are spending.
I have to completely agree. It is YOUR day, YOUR wedding, and you and your FH should have it YOUR way, no matter what anyone says.
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first of all, taht is cheap. second of all, you shouldnt worry about what they say. i need to learn this lesson my self. everyone will have something to say about everything you do. its your day and dont look back on it with regrets - your fam. will get over it because you really cant please everyone. its impossible
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Congrats on choosing Jack!!! Don't worry, things will work out. My parents don't agree with every decision we have made, but If we are paying for the vendors, it is our decision who to use and what we spend.
