Jack & Jill shower

Anyone had one? How was it for you?

I may be having one because
A)They may not be able to make the minimum
B)Some of my family members are having inner conflicts and may not come because they don't want to see each other thus making my mom miss the minimum. So men may have to be invited so she can meet the minimum.

So much drama and bs i swear.

Just don't do it like the one I told you about in that church basement where they charged a door fee... eek. That's the only one I've ever been to!

Are you sure you wouldn't rather just change your shower venue to somewhere that there isn't a minimum? Just a suggestion.

I'm only expecting 8 - 15 people at my ladies luncheon so we're doing it at a restaurant I like, rather than renting a room.

Would you FH come to your J&J shower? I always thought it's more like an engagement party once you start inviting guys.

Sorry if this response isn't that helpful... I'm just trying to brainstorm a little with ya here. Good luck with your planning!

I am having a jack & jill shower. I am not a fan of showers to begin with bc I get bored watching someone open up presents for like one hour and wanted more of a party. We are doing it in a backyard and I want to have beer pong going so that the boys can have their fun too. The bridal shower games- I told my sister to keep them to a minimum...maybe 2 and thats it.

But can you change the place you are having it at if you dont think you can make the minimum? Did you talk to FH about it? What did he think of the idea?

i think its a great idea!!!!!!

i would have totally done it but fh was not into it!!!!

i say go for it

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Posted by springsandra

Just don't do it like the one I told you about in that church basement where they charged a door fee... eek. That's the only one I've ever been to!

Are you sure you wouldn't rather just change your shower venue to somewhere that there isn't a minimum? Just a suggestion.

I'm only expecting 8 - 15 people at my ladies luncheon so we're doing it at a restaurant I like, rather than renting a room.

Would you FH come to your J&J shower? I always thought it's more like an engagement party once you start inviting guys.

Sorry if this response isn't that helpful... I'm just trying to brainstorm a little with ya here. Good luck with your planning!

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I have no control over my shower, my mom put down a deposit and doesnt want to lose it so the venue can't be changed. We would never charge anyone at the door that is just ghetto. I discussed with my FH and he wouldnt mind at all.

Thanks ladies for the support .

My shower was all women-I really wish FH could have stayed though-after 15 minutes he was like 'Have fun I love you baby' and bolted out the door. I was like 'HUH??' It's such a special day I wish fh could have stayed.

I think a J&J shower would be fun. Go for it!

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Posted by GRod2Be
I have no control over my shower, my mom put down a deposit and doesnt want to lose it so the venue can't be changed. We would never charge anyone at the door that is just ghetto. I discussed with my FH and he wouldnt mind at all.

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If your FH is up for it, then it sounds like a wonderful idea! He could invite some of his guy friends and they can do their own sort of thing if the women are doing any real ladies' activities during the shower. Perhaps you could advise any women bringing special presents to mark them 'FFEO' -- for female eyes only -- so your FH doesn't get a preview of any special wedding night gifts you get.

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Posted by springsandra

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Posted by GRod2Be
I have no control over my shower, my mom put down a deposit and doesnt want to lose it so the venue can't be changed. We would never charge anyone at the door that is just ghetto. I discussed with my FH and he wouldnt mind at all.

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If your FH is up for it, then it sounds like a wonderful idea! He could invite some of his guy friends and they can do their own sort of thing if the women are doing any real ladies' activities during the shower. Perhaps you could advise any women bringing special presents to mark them 'FFEO' -- for female eyes only -- so your FH doesn't get a preview of any special wedding night gifts you get.

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He'll probably eat and drink and make silly comments to me lol...but thank you for the suggestion . I'll tell my mom to tell anyone to mark the sexy gifts FFEO..thanks

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Posted by seawedding

Silly question: What's a Jack and Jill shower?

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A Jack and Jill shower is a co-ed or couples shower. Guys and Girls!!

I had my Jack & Jill shower last Friday nite - we had a cocktail party and it was AMAZING!!! I couldn't have asked for a better shower. Everyone loved the idea and we are still getting compliments on the shower - now everyone is super excited about the wedding.
I had the same issue as you with minimums, when it's couples more people tend to come so be prepared to have more guests than anticipated.
I did open gifts - but I did it in one section of the room for only people who wanted to be involved and worked out great.

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Posted by emric

I had my Jack & Jill shower last Friday nite - we had a cocktail party and it was AMAZING!!! I couldn't have asked for a better shower. Everyone loved the idea and we are still getting compliments on the shower - now everyone is super excited about the wedding.
I had the same issue as you with minimums, when it's couples more people tend to come so be prepared to have more guests than anticipated.
I did open gifts - but I did it in one section of the room for only people who wanted to be involved and worked out great.

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Thats cool!!! What games did you play? Did you try to get the boys involved in any way?

Edit to add... that Im wondering how you incorporated the men bc I will be having a jack & jill party and want to make it fun for them as well....Im going to try to open gifts as fast as I can lol