Jack & Jill Showers

blushingbride2003 Posted: Jun 10, 2003 10:21 PM

Jack & Jill Showers

Did anyone have one, plan on having one, been to one? What do you think of them?

dubliner Posted: Jun 10, 2003 10:33 PM

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I wnet to one - the guys hated it, absolutely hated it, and it wasn't really girly. I spared DH from it

DaniRN Posted: Jun 10, 2003 11:33 PM

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I agree-FH would rather stick knives in his eyes then sit threw my shower watching me open up linens and china and having everyone ooh and aah!
But that's just him!

endlessluv429 Posted: Jun 11, 2003 08:29 AM

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i agree--FH said to me awhile ago--'it's not fair you get a shower what do I get?' he was just kidding of course! I Was like well the gifts are for US first of all, but if you'd like we can have a jack and jill (When i explained what it was his opinion on me getting a shower changed extremely fast! lol he wouldn't be caught dead @ a shower of any kind. i told him my dad would buy him power tools and manly things that day and he was satisfied!

karen32 Posted: Jun 11, 2003 09:22 AM

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JMO - i am not a fan of J&J showers. very few (if any) men enjoy them, plus i think the shower is a time for the women to bond and be together. i was at a J&J baby shower last fall and all the men (except the dad-to-be) were MISERABLE!!!!!!!

Ronnie&Theresa Posted: Jun 11, 2003 09:24 AM

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We are having one..

My Gm's are all single and can't wait to see all the girls.
We are having a friend DJ it as welll so it should be more like a fun party with presents!!!

regina2 Posted: Jun 11, 2003 09:26 AM

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I had a Jack & Jill Baby shower for my brother and his wife. But we provided a lot of alcohol for the men My brother hated opening all the gifts infront of everyone. The only people who watched them open the gifts were women, all the men were in the backyard drinking..

shelzyp Posted: Jun 11, 2003 09:26 AM

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My FH would hate it, but I made sure to put alot of things he would want on the registry so he doesn't feel left out.

sept2703 Posted: Jun 11, 2003 09:29 AM

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One of my BM's is havign one in June but she doesn't want to open all the presents in front of everyone. So basically it is a party where we bring them gifts.

cw0904 Posted: Jun 11, 2003 09:30 AM

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My mother brought it up to me. Like I want to know ANYTHING about my shower!
I prefer no. But this part of the wedding planning is not in my hands. I will leave it up to her and the BMs. I am sure whatever they do I will be happy with.

blushingbride2003 Posted: Jun 11, 2003 10:08 AM

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I really don't like going to showers and just the thought that there will be a shower for me makes me cringe. I really hate it when they open the gifts. I'm soooo bored out of my mind during that point. I thought a J&J would be fun since we didn't have an e-party. FH doesn't care either way but he said I should just have it all girls. Plus the fact that my BMs are asking if I'm having a shower pi$$es me off more to the whole idea of having a shower all together!

xjulietx Posted: Jun 11, 2003 10:14 AM

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I want one, but my mom doesn't think it would go over well. So we are trying to work out a system in which the really cool appliances are left unopened, so FH and I can open them together. I can open all the towels and sheets and blankets and china, crystal, silver but I want to open the Kitchen-Aid mixer and the toaster, coffee-maker, food-processor together. I wonder if that will work. What would I do? Ask people to separate the gifts, then have FH come near the end of the shower and open them with me? We'll see

SeptemberBride03 Posted: Jun 11, 2003 10:30 AM

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My FMIL threw my FSIL a Jack & Jill baby shower. They have a large house and the weather was nice - so mostly the guys hung out on the back deck drinking and eating and the woman sat in the living room to open the gifts. The rest of the time it was like a regular party or bbq.

I like the idea of having the traditional bridal shower - I was so overwhelmed by all of the people on Saturday at my shower - I couldn't imagine multiplying that by 2 to add the guys!

saccotobe Posted: Jun 11, 2003 11:35 PM

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the only j and j shower i went to was just like a bbq and the couple called off the wedding that same night!

butterfly20 Posted: Jun 11, 2003 11:38 PM

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my fiance said he will only show up at the end.. to say hello and help carry gifts..

julybride444 Posted: Jun 12, 2003 12:34 AM

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We're having a Jack and Jill Shower. But, it's more of a BBQ and hang out kind of thing for my family since many of them can't come to the wedding. It's going to be so much fun! I had a traditional shower w/my friends and his family here.

I think if you can leave the guys outside bbq - ing while you open gifts, or if there won't be a ton of people (and gifts) there, it's fine. Also, try to make it the least girly possible-just make it a big party.

WithThisRing Posted: Jun 12, 2003 07:26 AM

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I dont think my FI would really be into that. I could just picture him and the best man standing their laughing at all the ladies of how excited we get on little things.

I think my FI would be the one to somehow get me to the location and drop me off, say hello then come back later to get me and the gifts.

Scoop Posted: Jun 12, 2003 05:50 PM

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I've been to one before. It was at a house and the guys had a barbeque outside while the girls were inside opening gifts and eating a catered lunch. Afterwards everyone hung out outside.