So I'm just curious how everyone else's FH or DH feels about having babies after the wedding..... Are they freaked out by the idea? Do they want to wait waaaaay longer than you?
I want to wait a year but DH jokes that cars will fly when we have kids I know he is just kidding and we spoke about it, and 4 years is good for him but that's SOOO LONG from now!! I love all the LIW ladies but I would love to be a LIIF member as well
deb08
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We already got our little girl- she is our fg by the time the wedding rolls around she will be 3 and she is the best thing in the world- not to scare any of you but she was a pill baby. did not know for 3 months iwas pregs- still taking pill everyday!!! but so was my son who is 11 now. guess i got really strong eggs lol
we want one more but things are not looking good for that we had 2 misses in the last 18 months so we are holding off until I am covered under his insurance and can go to a really good ferlilty dr.
good luck to all of you girls!!!!
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FH and I have been trying for a long time and just started seeing an RE. I knew I would have a problem getting PG so were (obviously) starting right away. Neither of us can wait to have kids. I'm hoping it happens VERYsoon.
good luck!!!!
Thank You
laurak102476
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My FH and I have been back and forth with this SO much. I already have a daughter from a previous marriage, she is 6. She is DYING to have a little brother or sister. I am 31, but my FH is 45, so I feel that it may be unfair for me to make him go through it again. He already has a 19 and 22 year old. He says whatever I want is fine...
Fall Bride 2008
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WHATEVER HAPPENS WHENEVER IT HAPPENS IS FINE WITH US ..WE WOULD LIKE TO BUY A HOUSE FIRST THOUGH
ant n tilde
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We both want to wait a little bit but if it happens earlier than that is fine. Last night when we were talking about something he even said, ok if i got you pregnant not like it would be OH NO were pregnant what are we going to do, we're married now not a big deal. The way his whole attitude about it was that if it happens soon he wouldnt mind.
Isn't that a strange change? Like I said, he does NOT want kids. . . but its a totally different feeling now - If we got pregnant before the wedding, we would have been devastated and my family would have been heartbroken but now it would just be like OOPS, hope the baby is comfortable sleeping in a laundry basket, bc we dont have room for much else!
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I've been on the pill for the last 12 years. Once FH and I got engaged, I went off it because I'll be 34 at the time of the wedding and I don't want to have any difficulty getting pregnant. Although, we would like to wait a bit, I think we will try (b/c i'm 34 and he's 42) the 1st year that were married. We talk about it all the time. We would like to have one. He wants a little girl b/c he already has a son (17 y.o ) We are both VERY nervous about it. I'm ready but I don't think he is so we'll see........
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we're soooo ready, but i just started a new job a month and a half ago, and would want to wait at least a year before i give birth, so we're waiting until i'm at this new job for a least 3 months to begin ttc. AND i'm in school (part-time at night) until december '08. i wonder what that'll be like. sitting in class, way too tired, scatter-brain & all that comes with it. but i'm too freakin excited and i would LIKE to be pregnant in the cooler months rather than the hotter ones. and i'm 33!!! clock is-a-tickin'!!!!
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We both want to wait a little bit but if it happens earlier than that is fine. Last night when we were talking about something he even said, ok if i got you pregnant not like it would be OH NO were pregnant what are we going to do, we're married now not a big deal. The way his whole attitude about it was that if it happens soon he wouldnt mind.
Isn't that a strange change? Like I said, he does NOT want kids. . . but its a totally different feeling now - If we got pregnant before the wedding, we would have been devastated and my family would have been heartbroken but now it would just be like OOPS, hope the baby is comfortable sleeping in a laundry basket, bc we dont have room for much else!
it is strange...when we got back from the HM i said to DH that if we got pregnant now its ok, its the one time you dont have to be nervous to explain it to your parents infact his mom is probably praying for it when i said 2 years i think she thought it was too long
but yeah we would like to buy a house before having a baby.
ChristineAaron08
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We want to wait to buy a house first..so maybe in like a year from now.
MrsD71208
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Since we got the whole buying a house out of the way, we are both 100% sure we do not want to try for at least a year. FH might want to wait 2 years, but if I want one in a year I'm sure I can convince him!
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It makes DH physically ill to talk about babies! LOL I would like to wait a year or two but he can't even THINK about kids. We really don't like kids so its hard to think about our own LOL
I feel like lately it is the MEN who want the babies first, but definitely not MY DH.
Last night we were watching Jon and Kate plus eight and he actually got ANGRY watching it and just kept asking why I would want to destroy our lives like that. . . he thought she accidentally got pregnant with 6 after using fertility drugs, he didn't understand that they were implanted and all of them 'stuck' he was like WHAT IF THAT HAPPENS TO US!!!! seriously panicking!
tilde, we were watching that show last night too We were both in shock! He kept asking what does he (john) do for a living. He couldnt get over what it must cost them.
They were showing how they are snippy to eachother and i was like if that were me and you we would be way more snippy and nasty. I couldnt even imagine the stress of that
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Dh got upset yesterday cause my parents made a joke about us having kids and I said HELL NO! Which is my usual response. He doesn't understand that just cause I react that way now doesn't mean I don't ever want kids. Just not now. He even says he's not ready yet. He just hates my reaction
jenlen
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Our plan was to wait a year. But uh, that didn't happen . eh, one year, one week...same difference!!! We were totally freaked out at first, DH especially. He kept saying, WHAT? WHAT? But now, he's totally excited and will talk to my belly all the time. I think most guys are a little bit freaked out by the idea at first, but after it happens, they get totally into it.
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we aren't planning to the second we go on our hmoon...but we're on the same page. and we'll just see how things work out after we're married but we aren't waiting thaaaat long. we're going to possibly look into a house first...so one thing at a time for us
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i was hoping DH would go along with the baby right away but he really wants to wait longer....i am NOTTTTTTTT happy about it but what can you do? hopefully he will give in by the end of the year
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We would like to wait till we have a house too. And maybe a little more $$$. But after the wedding and some other things we'll reassess. We'd both like me to stay home or work a very limited schedule, but who knows what will happen.
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Our schedule so so perfect now I could smack my FH for not getting married last year because he's now up for a promotion at work which could flip around everything on us! Great I'd love to buy a house too, but with work and all it may be a whim thing! My coworker just got pregnant after her third IVF & it really opened my eyes to the difficulty most women are having nowadays! Granted there is no way I'd want my stomach to look like poor Kate's on that show! WOW!
