just need to vent for a minute, updated.
UPDATE:
So, I called his brother MYSELF and got a ride to the wake. I am really glad that I went bc his whole family made a big deal about how respectful it was for me to come without FH (his cousin's GF didn't even come![]()
) and they definitely made me feel like I made the right choice AND somehow it got FH off the hook for not coming bc I was his 'representative'
Funny thing is that at the last minute he wanted to come but bc he didn't inform anyone before hand there was no one to cover him.
I am also glad I went bc I learned a lot about his aunt's family. His aunt's mother was born in London during WWII and injured in a bombing! She then joined this women's group that supported the army ( I forget what they are called ) and met her husband, an American soldier. They came to America and had TEN CHILDREN ( 8 girls, 2 boys ) and I also saw pictures of her from LAST WEEK and she looked so healthy and happy with all of her 24 grandchildren around her ( and another great grandchild may be being born as I type! ). Wow, what a lady!
Thank you girls for calming me down so it didn't turn into a huge battle between us.
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before i rip FH's head off
ok FH's aunt's mother passed away and the wake was yesterday and today. FH owns a bait and tackle so he is very busy this weekend, but seriously, this is his cousin's GRANDMOTHER and I think worth leaving for for an hour or two.
So, I thought we were going yesterday and he never calls me. Fine, so I call him today at 2:30 and ask what time I should be ready. He tells me that he decided that he can't leave work - he explained this to his mother and he is just going to call his aunt later to apologize for not being able to make it.
FINE that has HIM covered, but what about ME - he didn't even CALL me to tell me this and NOW his parents already LEFT and I have no way to get there. Oh yeah. I don't drive on highways. So,instead ot the conversation being about how INCONSIDERATE he is to his aunt, cousins and now to ME, he turns it into 10 minutes of making fun of the 'baby who can't drive on the scary highway'
I swear, I feel bad for him when i DO finally get over my anxiety and just drive everywhere bc EVERY SINGLE TIME I am upset with him about something he turns it into this big thing with making fun of me for not driving on highways until i cry and then i cant even express my point
ok, so anyway - now i am the douchebag who cant attend the wake - even though i am not working so i have no excuse and I feel terrible. And i am also disgusted by HIM that he doesn't see why he should be there
ok sorry long vent over thanks for listening![]()
So, I called his brother MYSELF and got a ride to the wake. I am really glad that I went bc his whole family made a big deal about how respectful it was for me to come without FH (his cousin's GF didn't even come
Funny thing is that at the last minute he wanted to come but bc he didn't inform anyone before hand there was no one to cover him.
I am also glad I went bc I learned a lot about his aunt's family. His aunt's mother was born in London during WWII and injured in a bombing! She then joined this women's group that supported the army ( I forget what they are called ) and met her husband, an American soldier. They came to America and had TEN CHILDREN ( 8 girls, 2 boys ) and I also saw pictures of her from LAST WEEK and she looked so healthy and happy with all of her 24 grandchildren around her ( and another great grandchild may be being born as I type! ). Wow, what a lady!
Thank you girls for calming me down so it didn't turn into a huge battle between us.
_______________________________________________
before i rip FH's head off
ok FH's aunt's mother passed away and the wake was yesterday and today. FH owns a bait and tackle so he is very busy this weekend, but seriously, this is his cousin's GRANDMOTHER and I think worth leaving for for an hour or two.
So, I thought we were going yesterday and he never calls me. Fine, so I call him today at 2:30 and ask what time I should be ready. He tells me that he decided that he can't leave work - he explained this to his mother and he is just going to call his aunt later to apologize for not being able to make it.
FINE that has HIM covered, but what about ME - he didn't even CALL me to tell me this and NOW his parents already LEFT and I have no way to get there. Oh yeah. I don't drive on highways. So,instead ot the conversation being about how INCONSIDERATE he is to his aunt, cousins and now to ME, he turns it into 10 minutes of making fun of the 'baby who can't drive on the scary highway'
I swear, I feel bad for him when i DO finally get over my anxiety and just drive everywhere bc EVERY SINGLE TIME I am upset with him about something he turns it into this big thing with making fun of me for not driving on highways until i cry and then i cant even express my point
ok, so anyway - now i am the douchebag who cant attend the wake - even though i am not working so i have no excuse and I feel terrible. And i am also disgusted by HIM that he doesn't see why he should be there
ok sorry long vent over thanks for listening
