Just wondering- question for those who moved in together before the marriage, before the ring?

Original post by nrvbrd

Jan 05, 2004 02:17 PM

Went to a gathering of a friend of a friend-

This woman was very upset because her boyfriend had just broken up with her and moved out of their apartment. They had been dating two years, and living together for a few months. They had pooled money together, purchased a car. From what she spoke there was no talk of marriage in the near or distant future. They are now in the midst of resolving all of their financial obligations.

My question is would you have moved in with FH/DH not knowing if it was going somewhere or at least ironing out any personal issues between the two of you? I know this may sound like too easy of a question, but some people have the rationale of 'lets see where it goes, or lets take a chance'

Just curious to hear your thoughts.

I did not move in with DH until after the wedding, though I see NOTHING wrong with living together first (after getting the ring of course).

Boop2704 Posted: Jan 05, 2004 06:49 PM

Re: Just wondering- question for those who moved in together before the marriage, before the ring?

I officially moved in with FH after we got engaged, but I was spending weekends and basically all my time at his place before we got engaged. I am so happy we are living together beforehand. We have totally gotten to know each other and are so happy. After we got engaged, it just got too hard leaving him because we were so in love so I moved in. My parents weren't happy at first, but they saw how in love we were and knew how miserable I was coming home at night.

Smolokoff Posted: Jan 05, 2004 07:49 PM

Re: Just wondering- question for those who moved in together before the marriage, before the ring?

I was engaged once before, and moved in with the guy 3 months after we got engaged, but things wound up not working out. Living with him taught me more about him that made me realize he wasn't the one for me. So being engaged isn't always the guarantee you might think it is. I definitely recommend living together first. I am so glad I am living with FH now. It made me appreciate him more than I did already.

Heidi

cooky11111 Posted: Jan 05, 2004 07:52 PM

Re: Just wondering- question for those who moved in together before the marriage, before the ring?

We didn't but only because we lived 5 hours from each other and each owned a house and each had a kid in school. Had to wait until my house was sold and the new school season started.

MrsTC Posted: Jan 05, 2004 10:20 PM

Re: Just wondering- question for those who moved in together before the marriage, before the ring?

We moved in after getting engaged - I wanted to know that he was in it for the long run
...and I will admit, I wanted to make sure we were compatible living together.

halloweenbride04 Posted: Jan 05, 2004 10:47 PM

Re: Just wondering- question for those who moved in together before the marriage, before the ring?

I moved in with FH after dating for just 9 months! We hadn't spoken about marriage but we both knew we had found the one. We got engaged a little over a year later. We have not pooled our $$ together nor have we made any large purchases together yet. I love him with all my heart, but you just never know and I've seen too many talk shows where women get taken for all they have and wind up with nothing. Maybe that sounds cynical and like I don't trust FH but I'm just protecting myself and my posessions same as he is.