Kids

So how many of you are planning on having kids? My FH and I are not going to have any and I actually plan on having surgery to 'help ensure' that I dont after the wedding. I am so sick of people telling me to give it time, Ill change my mind. Well, Ill be 35 next month and I have felt this way since about 18. Is that so wrong? Am I an evil person? Isnt it better that I know I dont want them, then to have have them and possibly regret it? AHHHH!!!

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

we are definately having... no doubt in my mind, but they arent for everyone and thats okay....better to know that now, then have them, and be the worst uninvolved parent ever

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Agreed Mazz..we are having kids too but like you said, they are not for everyone. It always breaks my heart to see people have kids and then not be involved because they didnt really want them...Good for you for making a decision and sticking with it!

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Posted by MrsDrinkh20

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

we are definately having... no doubt in my mind, but they arent for everyone and thats okay....better to know that now, then have them, and be the worst uninvolved parent ever

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Agreed Mazz..we are having kids too but like you said, they are not for everyone. It always breaks my heart to see people have kids and then not be involved because they didnt really want them...Good for you for making a decision and sticking with it!

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I third this.... jeez... can you tell we all work in schools or what? It's like you want to tie some mothers' tubes and give some fathers vasectomies as soon as you meet them!

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Posted by MrsDtoBe09

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Posted by MrsDrinkh20

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

we are definately having... no doubt in my mind, but they arent for everyone and thats okay....better to know that now, then have them, and be the worst uninvolved parent ever

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Agreed Mazz..we are having kids too but like you said, they are not for everyone. It always breaks my heart to see people have kids and then not be involved because they didnt really want them...Good for you for making a decision and sticking with it!

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I third this.... jeez... can you tell we all work in schools or what? It's like you want to tie some mothers' tubes and give some fathers vasectomies as soon as you meet them!

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LOL exactly... you see it all too often and its really sad for these kids

If you don't want them, don't have them! If people have a problem with that, s.ucks for them! I can't wait to have 2 of them! Worst thing anyone can do is have a child they don't want. It's not fair for anyone. I worked in daycare for over 2 years and I would see parents who weren't even working just drop their kids off for 8-10 hours, 5 days a week! It was just sad.

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Posted by JackieV

we are def having kids... prob a year after we get married. But i agree with u... if u dont want them then no one should tell u differently. My best friend doesnt want kids and she had felt this way forever. Its your own personal choice. Dont let people get to u.

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Yay ... I get to be Aunt Kristi soon LOL YAY

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Posted by monkeybuttz

So how many of you are planning on having kids? My FH and I are not going to have any and I actually plan on having surgery to 'help ensure' that I dont after the wedding. I am so sick of people telling me to give it time, Ill change my mind. Well, Ill be 35 next month and I have felt this way since about 18. Is that so wrong? Am I an evil person? Isnt it better that I know I dont want them, then to have have them and possibly regret it? AHHHH!!!

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Nothing wrong with this at all. Honestly ... I didn't want kids for a long time. I am really obsessed with my career and in my industry if I miss one week I am completely out of the loop.

After all of my sisters and brothers starting having kids I realized how important family was and I really wanted one of my own.

So I have decided to be a working mother and figure it out as I go along but DO NOT let anyone tell you there is something wrong with not wanting kids. You are a great person for figuring this out now before it was to late.

You're not a horrible person at all, you have to make the decisions that best suit you not others because in the end, you'll be the one stuck raising the kids! And with the world being the way it is now, I don't blame you

FH and I want to have kids..but we're going to wait a couple of years after we're married..we want to fully enjoy each other first!

I already have a son and want another baby with FH but, real scared since one will be going into college when the other starts pre-k

Me and FH want kids right away, I can't wait to be a mom.....I've dreamt about it since I was a teenager.

I definitely commend you on your decision, I totally agree that children are not for everyone and as long as you and FH both feel the same I don't see why it would ever be a problem....don't worry about what people think....as long as you're both happy that's all that matters!!

Stolen from '08:

Lesson 1: Go to the grocery store. Arrange to have your salary paid directly to their head office. Go home. Pick up the paper. Read it for the last time.

Lesson 2: Before you finally go ahead and have children, find a couple who already are parents and berate them about their: Methods of discipline. Lack of patience. Appallingly low tolerance levels. Allowing their children to run wild. Suggest ways in which they might improve their child's breastfeeding, sleep habits, toilet training, table manners, and overall behavior. Enjoy it, because it will be the last time in your life you will have all the answers.

Lesson 3: To discover how the nights will feel...Walk around the living room from 5 p.m. to 10 p.m. carrying a wet bag weighing approximately 8-12 pounds, with a radio turned to static (or some other obnoxious sound) playing loudly. At 10 p.m., put the bag down, set the alarm for midnight, and go to sleep. Get up at 12 a.m. and walk around the living room again, with the bag, until 1 a.m. Set the alarm for 3 a.m. As you can't get back to sleep, get up at 2 a.m. and make a drink. Go to bed at 2:45 a.m. Get up at 3 a.m. when the alarm goes off. Sing songs in the dark until 4 a.m. Attempt to fall asleep, then finally give up around 6 a.m. Get up. Make breakfast. Keep this up for 5 years. Look cheerful.

Lesson 4: Can you stand the mess children make? To find out, smear peanut butter onto the sofa and jam onto the curtains. Hide a piece of raw chicken behind the stereo and leave it there all summer. Stick your fingers in the flower bed. Then rub them on the clean walls. Cover the stains with crayons. How does that look?

Lesson 5: Dressing small children is not as easy as it seems. Buy an octopus and a small bag made out of loose mesh. Attempt to put the octopus into the bag so that none of the arms hang out. Time allowed for this: all morning.

Lesson 6: Forget the BMW and buy a mini-van. And don't think that you can leave it out in the driveway spotless and shining. Family cars don't look like that. Buy a chocolate ice cream cone and put it in the glove compartment. Leave it there. Get a dime and stick it in the CD player. Take a family size package of chocolate cookies and mash them into the back seat. Run a garden rake along both sides of the car. There. Perfect.

Lesson 7: Go to the local grocery store. Take with you the closest thing you can find to a pre-school child. (A full-grown goat is excellent). If you intend to have more than one child, take more than one goat. Buy your week's groceries without letting the goats out of your sight. Pay for everything the goat eats or destroys. Until you can easily accomplish this, do not even contemplate having children.

Lesson 8: Hollow out a melon. Make a small hole in the side. Suspend it from the ceiling and swing it from side to side. Now get a bowl of soggy Cheerios and attempt to spoon them into the swaying melon by pretending to be an airplane. Continue until half the Cheerios are gone. Tip half into your lap. The other half, just throw up in the air. You are now ready to feed a nine-month-old baby.

Lesson 9: Make a recording of Fran Drescher saying 'mommy' repeatedly. (Important: no more than a four second delay between each 'mommy;' occasional crescendo to the level of a supersonic jet is required). Play this tape in your car everywhere you go for the next four years. You are now ready to take a long trip with a toddler.

Lesson 10: Start talking to an adult of your choice. Have someone else continually tug on your skirt hem, shirtsleeve, or elbow while playing the mommy' tape made from Lesson 9 above. You are now ready to have a conversation with an adult while there is a child in the room.

I think those of you who don't want kids are on the right track after reading this!!

liz that was hilarious!!

me and FH are def. going to have kids about 2 yrs after we get married...i know that i was born to be a mom and FH cant wait to be a dad...