Kind of down in the dumps about my shower......

Kind of down in the dumps about my shower......

I know I am getting a shower becuase people are whispering around me a lot. But I have one friend who seems to have a 'big' mouth, and she is telling me the craziest things. Like, Your sister has not heard from 17 people out of 65 that are invited, I guess you know who your real friends are, etc. Then on the other breath she is saying, ' You are having a lot of guests at your shower'. I feel as if it is going to be depressing and anticlaimatic at the same time! I have been down in the dumps lately becuase mom and dad have both passed and this is an exciting time in my life and they are not here to see it, and my sister is trying to get pregnant and I feel jipped for both of us. Is this normal to be having these feelings. And a lot of people have told me- 'Your Mom and Dad are smiling down on you, well you know what that is fine and dandy, but you girls know as well as I do there is nothing like having a mom and dad there to guide you through the whole wedding planning etc. Sorry to bring anyone else down, I just need some advice, and needed to vent , and also some cheering up!

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You have every right to feel this way.. First of all your friend needs to shut her mouthe because this is your shower, you shouldn't know anything about the planning.. Her telling you this is only putting the stress onto you.. yes your mom and dad are looking down on you, but of cours your going to be sad they aren't physically there.. Don't feel bad for the way your feeling.. This is going to be your special day!!!! The shower will be fine, and you shouldn't worry about it.. Why would she say that to you.. Like you don't have enough to worry about.. Now you have to sift out the 'bad' friends.. Girl, DO NOT WORRY..

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:hug

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i just want to say i know how you feel. just made me cry

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Thanks for being so prompt in answering.

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Princess I am so sorry you are going through this!!! I am in a very similar situation. I lost my mom almost 5 years ago so I know how you must feel!!! My mother was my best friend and I have been having similar feelings lately with a lot of the wedding planning going on!!! I feel as if I am not as excited as I should be!!! This is all very normal given your situation!!! It doesn't help when you have people around you that say things to add fuel to the fire!!! Feel free to open your mouth; you don't need any nonsense or grief!!! I have heard the line about parents looking down and being so proud etc... A lot of people say that cause they do not know exactly what to say and they really do mean well!!! I can totally understand when you say you feel as though they were jipped; I feel very similarly and I am very bitter! Have you thought of ways to honor them at your wedding? This could take a lot of the edge of and make you proud!! This is what I am in the process of doing now!!! Please feel free to FM me if you need to talk!! This is not an easy situation and I feel for you!!!

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Hugs to you!!! I can only imagine what you are going through. I think I would be handling it the same way. You have every reason to feel the way you do. And don't hold it in. Everything will get better, it really will!

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Please don't be down in the dumps. You will have a great shower and a beautiful wedding. Are you doing anything to memorialize your parents on your big day? I'm sure it is hard without them there.

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Please dont feel down...look at this as very positive that you are having a shower. im so sorry aboutyour parents. Im truly very sorry., That must be hard. The people that dont come to your shower, dont stress about them, focus on the positive...focus on the ones who do come and focus on the fact that you found someone that you love enough to get married!!! Showers are just a small part of it, the wedding is the real deal and you will be great!!!! Cheer up!!!

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Thank you so much - you girls are the best. It always bothers me that my Mom and Dad are not here, just lately since the wedding is getting closer I have these meltdowns. Yes, am doing things to remember them on my wedding day. I have my Moms wedding day Hanky, which is a beautiful , in white lace, and that is going around my bo-k,My Fh is wearing my Dad's cufflinks, etc. I do not want to make the wedding to morbid, I am so sick of crying over this, so we are not doing a memorial candle or anything like that, I want to be happy on the day of the wedding- tears of joy, not tears of mourning. My sister and BIL are going to walk me down the aisle also.

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just some hugs

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It sounds like some beautiful ways to include your parents in your wedding. It's nice that you are so close with your sister and BIL.