kind of hurt and kind of annoyed at feeling hurt

DaniandKen2010 Posted: Jun 13, 2010 02:00 PM

kind of hurt and kind of annoyed at feeling hurt

SummerBride10 Posted: Jun 13, 2010 02:03 PM

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I definatly think you have a right to feel the way you do and you are in NO way making too much of it.

I would talk to your FH about it. If your shower is that day you just won't fully be there in spirit and that wouldn't be fun for you or anyone else.

I hope it works out

RaeloveMeg Posted: Jun 13, 2010 02:07 PM

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Honstly what I thought of right away was maybe they picked that day to try and turn things around for you-- dont get me wrong you will always be sad/ upset with those dates but maybe they thought by picking that day you wont be so depressed and you will try and remember that day as something good that has happened also???? I dont know I really dont think they did it on purpose maybe they thought they were doing something good for you- but if it really bothers you I think you can def bring it up to one of them and Im sure they will see your point and understand.

DWKSwed Posted: Jun 13, 2010 02:07 PM

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I am sorry you feel that way. I am sure they just got excited with all the planning and didn't realize it.

I would try to just channel your energy to a happy place, maybe it will cheer you up that day and maybe it can make you feel like she's even more there with you for your shower because it's on that date. And listen, I had my shower the day after my grandma's funeral, and I was devastated by losing her but I was able to enjoy the shower and be happy that day so maybe you will be in a better place than you think.

Sending you

irisheyes23 Posted: Jun 13, 2010 02:10 PM

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I agree with the other ladies. Maybe it can be a bittersweet date now instead of just a sad day.

Windy Posted: Jun 13, 2010 02:43 PM

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Maybe they did it to make you feel better on that day? If you are really upset then perhaps the date can be changed? Were invited sent out already?

MrsDrinkh20 Posted: Jun 13, 2010 02:56 PM

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Posted by RaeloveMeg

Honstly what I thought of right away was maybe they picked that day to try and turn things around for you-- dont get me wrong you will always be sad/ upset with those dates but maybe they thought by picking that day you wont be so depressed and you will try and remember that day as something good that has happened also???? I dont know I really dont think they did it on purpose maybe they thought they were doing something good for you- but if it really bothers you I think you can def bring it up to one of them and Im sure they will see your point and understand.

That's what I thought...hugs to you though...hope it all works out the way you want it to!

sweeet513 Posted: Jun 13, 2010 03:01 PM

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Posted by DWKSwed

I would try to just channel your energy to a happy place, maybe it will cheer you up that day and maybe it can make you feel like she's even more there with you for your shower because it's on that date.

I would try to think of it like this, if possible. I understand how hard it will be, though.

halfbaked Posted: Jun 13, 2010 03:10 PM

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Maybe it'll be a good thing for you! Maybe it'll help to put a good spin on that date for you. You can still honor your mom's birthday and you'll be surrounded by your nearest and dearest for support. I wouldn't get too mad- they probably just didn't think of it. If you really think it's going to be that bad, see if they can change the date. Good luck!

KM714 Posted: Jun 13, 2010 03:18 PM

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Posted by jilliibabii

Maybe it'll be a good thing for you! Maybe it'll help to put a good spin on that date for you. You can still honor your mom's birthday and you'll be surrounded by your nearest and dearest for support. I wouldn't get too mad- they probably just didn't think of it. If you really think it's going to be that bad, see if they can change the date. Good luck!

agreed. maybe it will be a nice little extra to show that your mom is celebrating with you in spirit on her bday. maybe they could do a quick moment of silence or something as a little remembrance. i think its a great day to be happy with everyone together celebrating a great thing. but if you really wont be okay with it, i think asking them to switch the date is perfectly okay. :)

MrsHazel2B Posted: Jun 13, 2010 05:13 PM

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My first thought was having one of the starting days of your new life on your mom's b'day is an honor of her memory, bringing her there with you. That's how I would view the day. Try to think of your parents' bdays as a celebration of their lives and the time you had with them. It never gets easy, but over time, it does get better.