okay, so if no one knows about my situation here it goes....i was suppose to get married last yr in august. i bought everything, did my favors, ordered my flowers, booked the pastor, and got the reception hall. it was 4 weeks until my wedding..everything was fine, until my FH's mother decided she wanted to invite 60 extra guests to our wedding. FYI me and his mother had alot of ups and downs, so why would i agree with her and let her invite all these other people. its my FH's side of the family and some of his mothers friends. which is ridiculous because my FH does not even speak to the family or friends that she wanted us to invite! He was flipping out wondering why she would want people there we didnt speak to or even know. its suppose to be our day and have the people we love there..not people that are not apart of our lives. so when we told her no, she ultimately called all of his family and told them not to attend the wedding. and they of course listened to her and called us and told us they would not be there. understand that she wanted to invite all the ppl but was not paying for the wedding at all. so because of the unneeded drama in the family we decided to postpone it because of how she reacted to our opinion and what we didnt want. so yes, now me and FH are trying to figure out a date, we want to wait at least till next yr. but what am i going to do when my FH's mother tried to pull this again? will she ruin my wedding once again to where no one will show up on his side? geek im sooo nervous i dunno what to do.
meara
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Oh how awful. You should so not have to deal with that. Could you tell her that you are on a strict budget and any over ___ amount she could pay for or just have to go with your numbers. . or better yet, can you all just plan it and just invite her last minute???
one more suggestion . do you have any interest in doing a destination wedding? that way you only invite folks you really care about and they are the only ones who come?
Good luck!
Sweeteey51
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Oh how awful. You should so not have to deal with that. Could you tell her that you are on a strict budget and any over ___ amount she could pay for or just have to go with your numbers. . or better yet, can you all just plan it and just invite her last minute???
one more suggestion . do you have any interest in doing a destination wedding? that way you only invite folks you really care about and they are the only ones who come?
Good luck!
I agree, destination wedding you can cut all those problems out. Also if she wants 60 extra guest then she should pay for it. Im so shocked that his family listened to her and agreed not to attend your wedding just because you didnt want people you didnt know there, thats just not right.
FuTuRe MrS MaZz
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lol wow...seems we all have the same idea, do a destination wedding where guests would have to pay for themsleves to come essentially... that would cut alot of bull out
