kind of puzzled/upset; what do you think

my shower was this past saturday (hooray it was awesome); when i emailed a good friend of mine who lives out of town about it (she was on the invite list but wasn't there), she said she didnt get the invite and was bummed because she would have come. when i asked my moh about it(who also lives oot and wasnt coordinating the rsvps the matron of honor was) she forwarded me emails where my friend was listed as a 'no'. how could she say no when she never got the invite?
the matron of honor has the phone #s of everyone invited. im a little upset about this but i know its over with and no use crying over spilled milk; i wont bring it up with my matron of honor, she did such a great job on the party.
would you be upset??