My cousin (not you lauren hehe) is going to be a reader in my wedding. My mom wanted me to have her as a BM but I have 10 o fthem already and I didn't want anymore. Truthfully I wasn't even going to ask her to be a reader bc I have a close friend I was going to ask. Either way long story short I ask my cousin. I was going to ask her when I saw her over x-mas and she totally blew off the family to hang out with her BF so I didn't get to do it in person. Weeks went by so i figured whatever I'll ask her over the phone, I do she says yes.. fine everything is good. My mom, me my aunt, and my cuz were suppossed to go to the JT bridal show tomorrow all together. Now I know she isn't a BM and I can't force her to do anything but she totally flaked again and said she can't its her BF and her's date night....btw she ahs known about htis for WEEKS!
Now I have a good friend who is taking no 'official' part in my wedding when I wish she were bc I already asked my cuz. I didn't ask this friend to be a BM bc FH only has a few guys and we are already uneven I didn't want it to be to much all my friends. ughh just venting I am more mad at myself I think that I didn't just tell my mom no I wanna ask my friend and not my cuz.... whatever, hopefully she will grow up some by the wedding day...
jussie82
Posted:
Member since
Re: kinda mad am I over reacting??
I don't think you are over-reacting. Your cuz is acting really rude and immature. The worst part about planning a wedding is including or not including certain people to appease family and friends. I hate to sound like a bridezilla, but it is my day and I really don't think people should get much of a say in those decisions other than FH of course. ESPECIALLY since FH and I are paying!
soontobecruz
Posted:
Member since
Re: kinda mad am I over reacting??
I know and when I was decideding BP I had my dad pulling me in one direction and my mom pulling me in another it was terrible!!!! So to please them both I made them both readers. I really should have went with my gut. My other reader is fine though and I love and had I known her longer and been closer she would have def been a BM!
grkbarbie
Posted:
Member since
Re: kinda mad am I over reacting??
1st off.. i HATEE when a girls life revolves around a guy. its pathetic. its a sign of weakness and insecurity lol
with that being said...
let this incident slide...
then ask her to do somethign wedding related on a DIFFERENT day of the week...
if she flakes out again..put ur friend in her spot, and kick ur cuz out.
little j
Posted:
Member since
Re: kinda mad am I over reacting??
cant your other friend also be a reader? maybe add on a reading? or perhaps something can be split up? just an idea...
sorry about the drama with your cousin. maybe she has her own drama she is dealing with (maybe she wishes she was planning her wedding..or maybe she really wanted to be a BM).
dont stress too much.
i was a reader at one of my friends weddings...and he didnt even tell me till the day before. (it was a destination wedding).
things like this will solve themselves. try not to stress too much...and if you can, find a role for your friend!
soontobecruz
Posted:
Member since
Re: kinda mad am I over reacting??
I am going to let this slide. I would honestly replace her but I dont want to cause problems between my mom and my Aunt they are BFFE... (they are not sisters, long story) either way she is my Aunt and her daughter is my cousin,and I just I wouldn't want to do that... FH and I really only want to keep to 2 readings bc it is a Church ceremony and don't want it to be to long. I really don't think she wanted to be a BM or wants to be planning her own wedding she is only 21, I don't know whats going on in her head.
I do like the idea of something else for my friend, I can't think of anything though... Any suggestions?
grkbarbie
Posted:
Member since
Re: kinda mad am I over reacting??
have ur friend read.. and have ur cuz stand by the door with a basket handing out ill baggies of rice..
seems to me thats all shes good for lol
soontobecruz
Posted:
Member since
Re: kinda mad am I over reacting??
LOL
rocketsummer17
Posted:
Member since
Re: kinda mad am I over reacting??
your not over reacting...my cousin pulled something around christmas time and really hurt me, so now I have no moh bc of it...
If your cousin keeps acting this flaky maybe you need to reconsider her being a part of the wedding, and asking your close friend to do the reading instead
Nichole2010
Posted:
Member since
Re: kinda mad am I over reacting??
Posted by grkbarbie
1st off.. i HATEE when a girls life revolves around a guy. its pathetic. its a sign of weakness and insecurity lol
with that being said...
let this incident slide...
then ask her to do somethign wedding related on a DIFFERENT day of the week...
if she flakes out again..put ur friend in her spot, and kick ur cuz out.
ITA... she needs to grow up, and if she cant, then kick her out... who cares..its your wedding, do what YOU want..
Jen2525
Posted:
Member since
Re: kinda mad am I over reacting??
were you and your cousin close at one time?? she may be jealous that your getting married so keeps avoiding anything that has to do with you being happy......its sad but i know people like that......
little j
Posted:
Member since
Re: kinda mad am I over reacting??
Posted by soontobecruz
I am going to let this slide. I would honestly replace her but I dont want to cause problems between my mom and my Aunt they are BFFE... (they are not sisters, long story) either way she is my Aunt and her daughter is my cousin,and I just I wouldn't want to do that... FH and I really only want to keep to 2 readings bc it is a Church ceremony and don't want it to be to long. I really don't think she wanted to be a BM or wants to be planning her own wedding she is only 21, I don't know whats going on in her head.
I do like the idea of something else for my friend, I can't think of anything though... Any suggestions?
what about petitions?? you know the response is 'Lord, hear our prayer'...??
soontobecruz
Posted:
Member since
Re: kinda mad am I over reacting??
Thats a good idea! I am going to the church Thursday they should have some suggestions too.
I guess we were close bc our families did everything together I mean she is 5 years younger than me. I really don't think she is jealous I think she just has some growing up to do.
I'll get over it, but you are all right if it happens again.. she can hit the bricks!
Kimbiz1
Posted:
Member since
Re: kinda mad am I over reacting??
Posted by jussie82
I don't think you are over-reacting. Your cuz is acting really rude and immature. The worst part about planning a wedding is including or not including certain people to appease family and friends. I hate to sound like a bridezilla, but it is my day and I really don't think people should get much of a say in those decisions other than FH of course. ESPECIALLY since FH and I are paying!
Could you stand in for me when it comes time to talk to certain people?? Please????? FH makes a mean Chicken Soup and fantastic sauce.......
