Kinda Stolen from NW - How do you feel....

Kinda Stolen from NW - How do you feel....

about your FH/DH looking at porn?

i know we've had some raunch convos already and we've probably discussed this so many times already but there are some newer girls on the 08 board, plus im bored

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what the hell I will chime in on this. I personally don't mind if/when he does as long as he doesn't choose to watch porn over spending time with me. TBH- he used to before we lived together, but since he really hasn't. Not sure if it is b/c the need is not there or b/c he barely has any free time. I would like to think it is the first and not the latter.

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Is it bad that I don't even know if DH does look at porn???

I would assume he does at times, but nah, I am not really bothered by it. If he watched it ALL the time and was obsessed with it, then yes, I might not be so fine with it!

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This is a tough one. I think that in moderation a little porn is okay. I would prefer that we watch it together Guys will be guys though. I don't think I have ever met a guy that didn't watch any at all. You can also learn a lot about what your guy likes by seeing what he watches...

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porn totally skeeves me out. Gross. Luckily I'm marrying a man who isn't a 'porn fanatic' anyway. lol. But if I had to choose, i'd rather he just looked at some dirty pictures and not watched one of those disgusting films.

But of course, even is he DOES check out some 'dirty pictures' I'll still make sure they're all of ME!!! hahaha

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magazines or videos?

magazines- I have yet to find any, so I dont believe he has any. LOL

Videos? well this is sort of a funny story. He has a bag of them. He and his friend worked in the admissions office of his university. They were told to clean out the closet and go through everything and get rid of stuff and organzie etc. So they were. And after a couple of hours they came upon a large box and opened it. And it was a box of porn. it had like 2 and 3 of every movie. It even had the Paris video and this was like a few months after it came out. LOL. So they didn't know what to do. DH says he felt like it was a scene out of That 70's Show or something. So they divided it up evenly and snuck it out. They said it was worth too much to throw it away, but they can't sell it either. So sometimes they give them to friends. So yes, my DH has a bag of porn. And I think it is funny. Cus who finds boxes of porn at their school?
ETA: He doesn't sit around watching it though. We have put a couple on cus it was funny- but I get skeeved out- kinda like when I watch horror movies so we turn them off.

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LOL,, i think if he does every once and a while it doesnt bother me. I really dont think it would bother me, unless it cut into my time!

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i dont know if he watches it either

i know that he has - and we have watched it together before, but in the last year or so i honestly dont think he has any time too watch it

i think if he watched it regularly i would be bothered a little bit - like if it was something he watched daily i think it would cause a problem - but here and there viewing doesnt bother me....

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Doesnt bother me never has. I think it's one way or the other my BFF HATES it and I dont care lol

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as I said on NW, I don't mind, dh and I are very open with each other and to be honest with you i think most men watch

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I'm more open minded about this than I thought. I acutally don't mind that he watchs videos or looks at pics, he actually really doesn't do it often since we've been together. Men think about sex a lot so it'll be their inclination to look. I've even gotten him a Playboy magazine in the past because Kim Kardashian was on the cover and he loves her Thankfully I didn't have to pay for the issue because a friend of mine worked there...if not he woulda been outta luck .

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I don't really care... we usually joke about it actually. I know he has a folder on the computer called 'football'... well let's just say there is nothing about football in there! lol I like to make fun of the movie titles too. It honestly doesn't bother me, unless like someone else said, it started to cut into the time we spend together.

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i think i watch it more- he makes me turn it off lol

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I answered on there, but i dont mind. I know he watches it and i even know when and what sites he looks at.

Like i said on NW, sometimes i'll watch it when i am alone JUST for educational purposes not even to get off but looking for new techniques or moves

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So glad you posted this...I wanted to a month ago but not sure how people would take it.....

I had a hard time with it at first....just not sure if he should watch it alone....made me feel inadequate...I know weird....but I was a little insecure about it...but we spoke about it and now I am in a good place with it. I wanted to get into the watching it together thing....just so it could be something we have together

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Posted by twright5ny

So glad you posted this...I wanted to a month ago but not sure how people would take it.....

I had a hard time with it at first....just not sure if he should watch it alone....made me feel inadequate...I know weird....but I was a little insecure about it...but we spoke about it and now I am in a good place with it. I wanted to get into the watching it together thing....just so it could be something we have together

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well i think it could def make someone feel insecure - i know that if he was watching alone and i knew the girl he was watching had really nice big boobs (like the kind i wish i had) i might feel a little insecure because i have an issue with my small boobs i mean ive come to term with my small boobs but knowing that big boobs may turn him on more than mine - yeah thinking that stings a little.....but i guess when i drool over david beckham's abs it makes my FH feel the same way - so i know that just because your significant other doesnt look like someone that turns them on in a movie or a celebrity, it doesnt mean that you dont turn them on at all....

i do think that if my FH got really into porn it might bother me, i dont think i have low self esteem but there are things about my body that i have issues with as most women do hahaha....and him watching naked women all the time i think would get to me a little bit just because i would probably compare myself to those girls....and they do some freaky ish too

but like denise said - it cant hurt to watch so you can brush up on some techniques

and watching together can be interesting!

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It's funny you asked this because DH never watched porn. We have never watched it together till the HM. We had included in our HM package the porn channels, some tastefully done and others not. We liked it, but we try to stay away from the hardcore stuff. Now that we're home from our HM we'll have to get some.