kinda wedding related... gift dilema

butterfly20 Posted: Sep 12, 2003 03:23 PM

kinda wedding related... gift dilema

ok, i received a generous engagement gift from my aunts/uncle/cousins...
a comforter set and sheets set, in a pretty pattern of gold. After looking at it every day for the last few days(which when i sleep with it ill be seeing it every day) im starting to dislike the color, and i was planning to paint the room a bold color which wouldnt match it...
Now i dont know what to do. i think i could exchange it at the store if i wanted(its still in the packaging, although no tags, but it shouldnt be a problem)... I feel guilty about exchanging it after hearing how long she took to pick it out, and how wonderful everyone thinks it is,
but this is something i plan to use for many years to come and want to pick out something i like(this was a non registry gift, my comforter was registered)I talked to my fh and he said we could store the comforter at his house, then if we want, exchange it and my family wouldnt know til a year later when i get married and get the house, and maybe they wouldnt mind so much then...
please help, i said i would ask the girls on here what they think.

Kim921 Posted: Sep 12, 2003 03:28 PM

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Return it and get what you and FH like. This is what cracks me up about people bying off the registry when you specifically picked that something out already. Return it and get the one you registered for. You have to use it for years to come, if they are insulted they should have thought of that before going off the registry.

Sorry if that sounded mean, but they won't be sleeping in it, you and FH will be.

TogetherForever Posted: Sep 12, 2003 03:31 PM

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To be honest, you are the one who has to be happy with it. If you dont like it then exchange it...dont even tell your family if you feel that bad. If they come over and see a different comforter, tell them that you have two of them and you switch them around. My best friend who just got married has two and changes them every once in a while.

butterfly20 Posted: Sep 12, 2003 03:32 PM

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i think i just need reassurance from some girls the color is really irritating me, and its not like there ever going to see it... although then i start thinking that they are going to ask to see it...
which then i guess id have to tell them?

Kim921 Posted: Sep 12, 2003 03:36 PM

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If they ask to see it tell them you took it to be drycleaned. Or if anything, you can say when you opened it it had a couple of pulls in it, so when you retunred it you and FH fell in love with something else. It is your bedding, I really don't think they will be offended.

Stacey1403 Posted: Sep 12, 2003 03:42 PM

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I would return it, if you already look at it and don't like it and it isn't even on your bed, imagine how you will feel when it is on your bed

Maribelle7777 Posted: Sep 12, 2003 03:49 PM

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i think that you should keep it, and if you have a spare bedroom use it there. if not - give it to your parents or in-laws?

butterfly20 Posted: Sep 12, 2003 04:01 PM

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maribelle, i planned to have a spare bedroom id do that, but the spare bedrooms wil be used when we have kids, and i cant give it to my parents cause my mom is close friends with her(thus not telling my mom what im doing and keeping it at fh's house til i decide)

July2004Bride Posted: Sep 12, 2003 05:14 PM

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I would definitely exchange it and get the one you liked off your registry... maybe next time they will buy off the registry instead of picking something out on their own... they should try to understand, everyone has different taste.. and if they don't, they'll get over it eventually. You are the one that has to live with the comforter set... go with the one you like