For those of you that don’t know what BCP stands for its birth control pills and YEAH I'm getting that personal on these boards. Alright here is my conundrum I don't know what to do I want to take BCPs because I don't want to have my period for my wedding or HM and FH and I have both agreed that we do not want children right away because we want to spend time enjoying each other as husband and wife and travel and stuff. BUT (of course there’s always a but) at the same time I don't want to and am very skeptical of being on drugs and hormones. I was on BCP years ago (during my very late teens/early college years) and all I remember is the side effects like constant yeast infections and stuff. I also feel like if it is God's will for me to be pregnant than it is His will (I know this may sound silly to some). Anyway, I am stuck between a rock and a hard place because we don't want to have kids for the first 2 years or so, but I don't want to be on hormonal drugs either. I have discussed it with FH and he is like “I don't know” (such a man). Please know that condoms are not an option so please don't suggest. What are your plans for BC ladies?
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Re: LADIES please help I need your opinions on BCP
Posted by 2Be1
Thanks for all of your responses ladies. I am definetly not going to use Depo although I did consider it for a quick moment I have heard too many negative side effect stories. I will definetly discuss with my Gyno what options are available. Ladies who swear by 'the other ring' I know Nina already asked if you can feel it but I wanted to know if FH can feel it too when , , , well you know also if you leave it in for the fourth week do you not get your period? or is it not safe to leave it in for a fourth week? what side effects if any did you have with 'the ring'? Thanks for the link I am definetly going to do some research on it. Do you still get your period on the patch? Does it really not come off in the bath or shower? Nina believe me FH and I have discussed the 'withdrawl' method too
Okay one (or two) more nuva questions I guess you have to stick it all the way 'up there' so you don't feel it or have it slip out like another poster said, but is it heard to get out? I mean is it a far reach (no pun intended) or difficult to find it and pull it out?
My FH could feel the ring, but you can remove it for up to three hours in a 24-hour span without any problems, so we'd just take it out. Also, he's a bit more... well endowed... many men can't feel it. The patch, like the nuvaring, stays on for 3 weeks and then comes off for a week, so you get your period in the off week. I'm not sure if you can leave it in for a 4th week, but you can put the next one in early and skip your off week - it's called stacking. However, I've heard of people having break through bleeding when they do this, although it does work for some others. The ring is easy to pull out and really not all that hard to push in. That's really why it's a ring shape, I think. You shove it up to where the cervix is, but it really hands down a bit, so you can just stick you finger in there and hook it and pull it out.
My side effects on the ring - I broke out a bit around my period, but I have acne prone skin, so that's probably just me. I felt a little nauseous the first day I put it in (apparently many people do, I don't know why). The two scarier ones - It made my heart beat faster, which when I realized it after I went off the ring kind of frightened me. I also started having some really intense panic attacks, which I've never really had before, but I still haven't been able to figure out if that was truly caused by the nuvaring, or something else, or what, as even if the panic attacks were caused by the hormones they definitely left some residual effects that I'm still dealing with. Also, pretty much all birth control I've been on has made me incredibly moody and irritable, especially the week before I'd get my period, and has basically massacred my sex drive.
that's one of the best parts of being off of it - I actually want to have sex again! It's a miracle!
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Re: LADIES please help I need your opinions on BCP
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Just out of curiousity... if you're not on bcp, and you don't use condoms... what are you using now? Or are you just not having sex? Otherwise, what's wrong with what you're using?
Bunny, we are not having 'intercourse' I hope that answers your question
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Re: LADIES please help I need your opinions on BCP
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Posted by weddingbunny
Just out of curiousity... if you're not on bcp, and you don't use condoms... what are you using now? Or are you just not having sex? Otherwise, what's wrong with what you're using?
Bunny, we are not having 'intercourse' I hope that answers your question
well, then, that makes perfect sense!
I was just curious since you'd mentioned that you'd been on the pill before, and it's rare for somebody who has had sex in other relationships to abstain in a current (and presumably long term) one. Not unheard of though, and people certainly use bcp for other things like controling their periods, so I just wanted to make sure.
