Ladies who didn't live with their FH before marriage..question

isk8r813 Posted: Jan 13, 2010 10:19 PM

Ladies who didn't live with their FH before marriage..question

When did you end up moving in together?

I'm debating on whether or not to move in a few weeks before our wedding or to wait until after our honeymoon to move in. FH owns a house and I just rent an apartment, so I'm moving to his place.

In your experience, is it less stressful to move before the wedding or afterwards?

cavvento Posted: Jan 13, 2010 10:28 PM

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Being that you're marrying on the first of the month, I would suggest starting to move your stuff during the month before, and have your lease end as of Sept. 30. You could spend last few days of the month at either his place, or even at your parents' if that's an option. FH is moving in with me, and that's what we're doing.

springsandra Posted: Jan 13, 2010 10:32 PM

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I actually didn't move in until about a month after the wedding. I started moving things slowly, but took my time. It was nice having that cushion because moving is a serious PITA!

isk8r813 Posted: Jan 13, 2010 10:33 PM

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Thanks for the recommendation, I think that will totally work for me!

I don't have very many things to move, and it's totally doable to move everything gradually rather than all at once.

isk8r813 Posted: Jan 13, 2010 10:35 PM

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Posted by springsandra

I actually didn't move in until about a month after the wedding. I started moving things slowly, but took my time. It was nice having that cushion because moving is a serious PITA!

I am so dreading it, lol.

geegee827 Posted: Jan 13, 2010 10:36 PM

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We closed on our house on 10/6. Got posession on 10/10. Then we started ripping up carpets, getting the floors re-done and painting.

DH actually moved in on 11/12. The wedding was on 11/14. We came back from our HM on 12/8 and stayed at my apt for a few days while we were finishing up some painting. My furniture was moved out of my apt on 12/14.

It depends on the timing. I probably could have moved my stuff in at the same time that DH was moving his stuff in but I knew it was going to be very hectic and told him that I refused to move stuff the week of the wedding - there was too much other stuff that needed to be done.

I think it's a lot to move right before your wedding. I also had the added stress of needing to clean out my apt and rip up carpeting there so I would get my security deposit back.

dfw343 Posted: Jan 14, 2010 12:02 PM

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IMO: wait.
No rush and it's such a hassle.
I don't know why people feel the need they HAVE to move in before marrying. It's added stress.

MrsCM Posted: Jan 14, 2010 12:19 PM

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We had a short engagement. After we got engaged I would stay over sometimes and after a while sometimes became all the time. Now I've been married for 4 months and I still haven't officially moved or forwarded my mail. I'm too busy.

2010bride2010 Posted: Jan 14, 2010 12:25 PM

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We are moving our things into an appartment (new for both of us) starting April, and will hopefully have everything all moved in by the wedding and start living together after the honeymoon! :)
So excited and happy we waited until were married! :)

gina409 Posted: Jan 14, 2010 12:27 PM

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we did it like 2 weeks b4 the wedding..we wanted to come hom from the hm and everything just to be ready

MrsCastanedain09 Posted: Jan 14, 2010 12:47 PM

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We moved in together 4 months before the wedding. It worked out great because we had a chance to buy furniture and settle in.

I would suggest moving in or at least getting the apartment/house a month or so before the wedding to give you time to set up.

Debrian2009 Posted: Jan 14, 2010 12:53 PM

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FH started moving things in after we got back from the honeymoon.

I own my own co-op so he moved in with me even though his commute is longer.

He is still not all moved in; between getting married, HM, holidays, now we are renovating the bathroom, we haven't had enough time to fully move him in.

Soon I hope!

NYBride Posted: Jan 14, 2010 01:31 PM

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Posted by MrsCastanedain09

We moved in together 4 months before the wedding. It worked out great because we had a chance to buy furniture and settle in.

I would suggest moving in or at least getting the apartment/house a month or so before the wedding to give you time to set up.

We just decided to do the same. The wedding is in May, so we're going to move in January 2010. Woohoo, I'm looking forward to it! Finally, some privacy!