LI weddings vs. Weddings Outside of NY

I've been to a few weddings on LI but most have been outside of NY. Everyone keeps telling me 'they can't wait to see what a LI wedding is like'........ummmm what do we do in LI that they don't typically do elsewhere??? Every wedding inside/outside NY has pretty much been the same....

In my personal opinion, I think they are a little different in terms of details. Like the little things.

I've only been to 2 weddings in the tri-state area and both of them were very different than my brother's wedding in CA.

Well I will say that in past year I have been to two weddings outside of NY and the main difference was the food. ESPECIALLY cocktail hour. Apparently elsewhere, cocktail hour is, ya know, cocktails.... with maybe a little fruit platter or some passed hors d'oeuvre where as in LI and NYC its 'the meal before the meal' lol

I also think in general, NYC and LI weddings tend to be just so over the top....its not that we plan it that way necessarily, it's just what's typical around here. I don't think I am having an extravagant wedding by any means, but to people I know who have gotten married elsewhere in the country, my wedding looks like a president's ball!

weddings outside of large metropolitan areas are always different then the ones here.
Like, here in NYC, we have a Venetian hour - which is not all that common outside of here. the CH is much more grand and and the smaller details brides pay more attention to.
Like flowers and decorations - we take more pride in them than brides who are not from here.
also, when your going to an OOT wedding, they are more likely to give gifts as a present than cash

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Posted by ItalianBella1122

Well I will say that in past year I have been to two weddings outside of NY and the main difference was the food. ESPECIALLY cocktail hour. Apparently elsewhere, cocktail hour is, ya know, cocktails.... with maybe a little fruit platter or some passed hors d'oeuvre where as in LI and NYC its 'the meal before the meal' lol

I also think in general, NYC and LI weddings tend to be just so over the top....its not that we plan it that way necessarily, it's just what's typical around here. I don't think I am having an extravagant wedding by any means, but to people I know who have gotten married elsewhere in the country, my wedding looks like a president's ball!

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ITA - I grew up in FL and weddings down there are very different. NY weddings are very over the top. I read an article the other day that the average us wedding costs $26k, NY weddings cost $75k!!

i have been only to out of state weddings in the last few years, so i can actually tell you a bit about what will be different. ALL of my college friends are from out of state (OH, PA, TX, MD) so i've been traveling a lot lately...their weddings were wonderful in their own way but here are the differences:

- most of the wedding i've been to have been buffet style
- one wedding was a sit down, but there was two courses only - salad and main course - no options for guests. what you got is what you got. a wedding i drove to ohio for last weekend i starved at because i was allergic to the only item on the menu
- cocktail hour is usually sparce - just drinks and fruit/cheese
- not usually open bars - either beer/wine/soda and/or cash bar
- no over the top flowers - all the weddings ive been to have had really tiny low CPs or no CPs at all
- plastic silverwear/plates - two weddings i went to had this
- no dessert other than wedding cake
- plastic folding chairs
- people wearng jeans
- LOTS of boxed gifts as opposed to money
- afterparties. tons of afterparties! the last wedding i was at, the bride and groom actualyl started saying things at the wedding like, i can't wait till this is over so we can have the afterparty
- DJs - no bands whatsoever
- one photographer, usually no videographer
- favors, if any, are usually candy
- one limo for everyone involved, if any limos at all

not that any of the above is REQUIRED for a NY/LI wedding, but these are just the things i noticed that are different from weddings here. i had a great time at all of the weddings i went to and love my friends dearly. the sad part is that i know one of my friends spent about $40K on her wedding and it really didnt 'feel' like that much was spent. they paid so much for the space tehy rented (about $18K) that the rest of the money basically went to food and that was it.

I live in LA and people here are shocked at the expense and detail going into my wedding. I think the food is the biggest difference. Also, the fact that people give you $$ for a gift.

Honestly, we wanted a more laid back Cali style wedding, since we feel like so much food will be wasted. But since we're having it on Long Island, we're having all the food. We'd be paying for it anyway, plus - as my Mom gracefully added, 'If you do it that way people will be taking money out of the envelopes!!'.

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Posted by ItalianBella1122

Well I will say that in past year I have been to two weddings outside of NY and the main difference was the food. ESPECIALLY cocktail hour. Apparently elsewhere, cocktail hour is, ya know, cocktails.... with maybe a little fruit platter or some passed hors d'oeuvre where as in LI and NYC its 'the meal before the meal' lol

I also think in general, NYC and LI weddings tend to be just so over the top....its not that we plan it that way necessarily, it's just what's typical around here. I don't think I am having an extravagant wedding by any means, but to people I know who have gotten married elsewhere in the country, my wedding looks like a president's ball!

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Basically all of this!! My family from Colorado filled up at CH b/c they thought that was the whole meal! My friends from MA couldn't believe the flowers! I've been to many weddings outside of the NY area since I went away to college, and no one does it like NY - especially LI! My cousin got married in MD and she is originally from LI. Well, my aunt and uncle went crazy trying to find a venue as 'NY' as possible!

NY wedding are SO different!

out of state wedding are much less involved...in every aspect. from food, to flowers, to details. The last OOT wedding I went to they had kegs of beer and bottles of wine as open bar! One prior had buffet dinner and maybe 5 passed cocktail hour foods.

I loved reading all of these responses...now I understand why people are looking forward to this.

FH and I went to a wedding in FL last year with virtually NO CH...just veggies and 1 bartender for 150 people...needless to say I was ordering 2 drinks at a time so I didnt wait on the longggg line and picked at the veggies- I was drunk in NO TIME

Weddings in Boston are the same as here. <3

The ONLY difference is that it is an option for open bar vs. cash bar. And all my guests were VERY excited when they arrived to an open bar. They also include/cost the same. That is why I had my wedding here instead of the customary (where the bride grew up).