Life is weird.....

When I was younger.. I would try everything to get a girl's attention and hopefully affection.. LOL and it would fail many times.

Or let's just that say my success percentage was not in a very high percentile.

So I met the girl of my dreams.. someone who FINALLY loves me warts and all (I really don't have warts.. seriously... haha) and now I don't know.. I get flirted with.. there's a girl on the train who I always thought was pretty.. and she smiles at me the other day. For no reason.

It doesn't mean anything.. I'm 1000000% faithful to the FW no matter what.

But it's just so weird because.. I'm not saying that I could get any girl I wanted now.. but it seems like women are much more receptive than when I was single.

It's just weird. I haven't changed as far as I can tell.. then again, maybe I have.

I'm sure other FH's go through this too.

Comments?

Maybe because you are older and have more confidence, and also, you have no expectations, so you are not doing anything but being yourself. No TRYING to be someone you are not. They say love makes you more attractive, too......
anyways, maybe women just pick up that 'vibe'

...i could be totally wrong....

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Posted by don424

dude, people want what they can't have

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you got it!

This happens ALL the time, for both men and women

In my single days I could go through looooong dry spells without so much as a glance, let alone getting hit on or asked out .. but the MINUTE I was in a relationship again, I'd meet men all the time! I was always a monogomous in my relationships so it wouldn't mean a thing - yet incredulously, this would always happen. FH has told me that this happens all the time to him also, esp. since we've been engaged

After FH and I got serious, I met men left & right! I could care less b/c I loved him at first sight - but still! A kid you not, a guy I'd had a unrequited crush on for years came out of the woodwork and finally asked me out! I was like , 'uh hello , where have you been the past 4 years?' Later for him! LOLOLOL!

I do believe its the confidence factor... you DO exude something different when you are content and with someone that is 'into' you, and when you are in love you just act different .. that vibe projects itself onto the opposite sex.

Heck, if nothing else its always a confidence boost to be seen as 'desirable'

It's great for an ego boost

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Posted by julz33

Maybe you were always trying too hard.

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she nailed it right there......you aren't trying at all, makes you seem more confident...since there's nothing to show these women you are engaged (men dont wear engagement rings as a symbol like women do) so they perceive you as confident and self-assured.....

being a male..i have noticed the same octgroom...

you don't need to try..we have 'i'm taken and spoken for look' with out meaning too.

when my relationship got serious, it changed my whole outlook on life and every other girl that i meet before... girls were getting a bad rap before i meet FW.. now i look at these women and they try and talk to me about stuff. soon as i mention FW, they are gone. And it makes it funny cause they had a chance years back (the one that i grew up with)

It's funny because I wear a Claddaugh ring as well. And on Halloween.. I was dressed up as a pimp.. some girl says to me 'You can't be a player with that ring on your hand.'

I smiled as she informed me that her bedsheets were the same pattern as my pimp outfit.. leopard stripes. I just laughed.

Though I kinda sorta think that women will flirt because those who see the ring or know that I'm getting married in October know that nothing's gonna happen. (That might explain a couple of co-workers... haha)

My final reaction is... whatever....