Little Dilemma....

So I'm in a bit of a pickle...

So I have a friend who I met in college 2 years ago. We were really close the first year but didn't talk much this past year. I am interning with her this year so I have been seeing her more often. She had said to me when we knew each other for about 3 months that she wanted me to be one of her bridesmaids. I thought it was weird- maybe just trying to be extra nice

Well anyways, she has been engaged since I met her and she tells me today that she booked her hall. We got to talking and I asked what her colors were and she says 'oh, mainly white and YOUR dress colors will be midnight blue.' HUH??? She then says to me 'you're still one of my bridesmaids, right?' So of course I say yes but I really haven't talked to her at all, so I thought it was super weird.

So then the bomb shell. I ask her what her wedding date is and she says May 3, 2013- 3 WEEKS BEFORE MINE!!! I know I'm gonna be a mess finishing stuff up, and now I have this extra expense to worry about!!!

Sorry this is so long, but I just wish I could get out of it. I don't mean to sound like a b_ _ _ _, but we are more acquaintances than anything- does this sound weird to anybody else or just me???

I understand your point exactly. I was in a co-workers wedding and until she asked me, I didnt even have her phone # and we never even hung out aside from lunch. And when I got engaged, a girl made a comment about being my bridesmaid-meanwhile-I didn't even know if she would make it to my B-list!!! it's funny how people can misconstrue ideas of friendship like that!
if you feel like it will be too much for you, and she's nt a close friend where it is worth that effort, then gently thank her for the offer but decline

I agree this is super weird, I would nicely decline and expalin that it is 3 weeks before your wedding and it is just too close. Your Shower and B party might have conflicts esp if they are surprises to you.

Good Luck!

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Posted by ThefutureMrsC

I agree this is super weird, I would nicely decline and expalin that it is 3 weeks before your wedding and it is just too close. Your Shower and B party might have conflicts esp if they are surprises to you.

Good Luck!

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I agree. It seems like the best way to get out of the situation without seeming like you don't want to do it.

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Posted by Kris10nGerard

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Posted by ThefutureMrsC

I agree this is super weird, I would nicely decline and expalin that it is 3 weeks before your wedding and it is just too close. Your Shower and B party might have conflicts esp if they are surprises to you.

Good Luck!

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I agree. It seems like the best way to get out of the situation without seeming like you don't want to do it.

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This! Your going to have so much going on those last few wks b4 your wedding. You don't want to add anything else on to your plate. Esp if you and her are not that close.

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Posted by ThefutureMrsC

I agree this is super weird, I would nicely decline and expalin that it is 3 weeks before your wedding and it is just too close. Your Shower and B party might have conflicts esp if they are surprises to you.

Good Luck!

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AHHH!!!! I didn't even think about this! Oh geeze, what a headache this is

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Posted by b2b2013

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Posted by ThefutureMrsC

I agree this is super weird, I would nicely decline and expalin that it is 3 weeks before your wedding and it is just too close. Your Shower and B party might have conflicts esp if they are surprises to you.

Good Luck!

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AHHH!!!! I didn't even think about this! Oh geeze, what a headache this is

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If you plan on going to the wedding, I don't think it would be that big of a deal to just stay a bridesmaid. You might not be able to run to her rescue every times she needs help with something but she should understand that. Unless you mean financially, I think you could just go ahead with it. (Just my opinion)
I could see if it was an out of town wedding but if it's local, it might actually be fun and keep the wedding excitement going.

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Posted by Royalgem21

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Posted by b2b2013

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Posted by ThefutureMrsC

I agree this is super weird, I would nicely decline and expalin that it is 3 weeks before your wedding and it is just too close. Your Shower and B party might have conflicts esp if they are surprises to you.

Good Luck!

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AHHH!!!! I didn't even think about this! Oh geeze, what a headache this is

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If you plan on going to the wedding, I don't think it would be that big of a deal to just stay a bridesmaid. You might not be able to run to her rescue every times she needs help with something but she should understand that. Unless you mean financially, I think you could just go ahead with it. (Just my opinion)
I could see if it was an out of town wedding but if it's local, it might actually be fun and keep the wedding excitement going.

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A friend of mine also brought up a good point that she may not have many close friends and that's why she asked me. IDK though, I don't want to end up being a bad bridesmaid because I'm so busy but I'll have to think about it. Thanks though!