Ok, so here I am having another 'argument' with FH. A friend of ours needs to find an apartment soon. He says we (me, FI and him) should all get a place together. FI and I are going to start looking about 3-4 months before the wedding for one.
FI thinks it's ok for all 3 of us living together when we're newlyweds and doesn't think anything of it!!! How do I get him to see that it's just wrong?
NinaChris07
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No no no no no!!!
I cannot stress how important it is for you guys to live together and just the two of you as newlyweds! (and as a married couple) This isn't the time to be acting like college students in dormatories or with roomates.
I would be VERY insistent on this issue!!!
bride_to_be_2007
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Posted by NinaChris07
No no no no no!!!
I cannot stress how important it is for you guys to live together and just the two of you as newlyweds! (and as a married couple) This isn't the time to be acting like college students in dormatories or with roomates.
I would be VERY insistent on this issue!!!
i def. agree 100%......especially if this is the first time you two will be living together......you are newlyweds not three's company! put your foot down missy!!!
transamgirlie
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absolutely NOT!!! What is he thinking???
2Be1
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HELL NO. . . didn't he watch the Newlyweds with Nick and Jessica when they let her BF live with them
Blu-ize
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Nope-I wouldn't have it. No way in H E L L!
This is not a sleepover or a dorm as another poster put it.
You are now a family living in your own place. If that person needed a place to stay for a while (short while) then ok, but not a permanent living arrangement.
There are tons of apartments out there. If he cannot afford one by himself let him pick another friend of his to be his roommate.
Absolutely unacceptable!
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I dunno, it might not be so incredibly terrible. For a while FH and I were living with his roomate and his roomate's fiance (in a 2 BR apartment). It wasn;t the ideal situation (only 1 bathroom). But we survived. The lease ended and we've moved to different location, and we only lived like that for like 2 months.
But, if you don;t want to love all 3 of you, then your FH should respect that. You have to make decisions together now. If you feel really stongly, stand your ground.
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Posted by NinaChris07
No no no no no!!!
I cannot stress how important it is for you guys to live together and just the two of you as newlyweds! (and as a married couple) This isn't the time to be acting like college students in dormatories or with roomates.
I would be VERY insistent on this issue!!!
I definitely agree!
JennyAl
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ummmmm NO!
Soon2BeMrsD
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well personally i say hell no! listen, IMHO you should sit with FH and tell him you two are going to be husband and wife and you are becoming a family and you want that time together to become a family...basically tell him no way, you would be happy and you are not comfortable with it...good luck!!!
kris15198
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I think I got him to listen, things have not been going so great. Hopefully things will work out
NinaChris07
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Posted by kris15198
I think I got him to listen, things have not been going so great. Hopefully things will work out
Good luck!
pupidda122505
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I think that's a really bad idea especially if this will be the first time u and FH live in close corners together. I think the first few months of being a newleywed are the toughest and having someone living with u definitely won't make it any easier. I suggest you have a talk with FH and explain to him why u think this is a bad idea. i hope it works out
Shannondon
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No Way!!!. Its an adjustment enough being a newlywed, whats is this guy thinking??? Stand your ground. I would not budge on this one...
ntunison
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don't budge!! you'll be newlyweds, why would you/he want some other person living in your new home??? Plus, you'll have to christen every room, and can't do that if this other person is there -- , hmmm, was that a little vulgar?? sorry!
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Well I totally agree with living together alone as newleyweds...Actually I have a similar situation - my FH and I were starting to look at houses last summer (it started out as a goof/we had NO intentions on buying one) until this year or next year ~ but the first house we saw we FELL in LOVE with and it was a GREAT deal...so we purchased it...we couldnt let it pass us by - we both knew we would regret it if we did. and my FH best friend (who is a female & also is one of my bestest buddy's as well/ she is like a serrogate sister in law) We did make an apartment with a seperate entrance - it was a little difficult in the beginning...It takes time to get used to it - but if you can try to not live with the three of you...try not to!
Don't get me wrong also - it can be a ton of fun...Now we have family nights on Sunday and we all eat together ~ either we make dinner and invite her upstairs - or she makes us dinner and we go down to her apartment...My FH and I both have agreed when she decides to leave we will not rent the space out - we are going to make it a nice place to have friends over...Big screen TV ect.
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I dunno, it might not be so incredibly terrible. For a while FH and I were living with his roomate and his roomate's fiance (in a 2 BR apartment). It wasn;t the ideal situation (only 1 bathroom). But we survived. The lease ended and we've moved to different location, and we only lived like that for like 2 months.
But, if you don;t want to love all 3 of you, then your FH should respect that. You have to make decisions together now. If you feel really stongly, stand your ground.
It's different when you're married.... you may not think so, but it is! The first year of marriage is definately a period of adjustment, regardless if you lived together before or not. You need this time to adjust to marriage and to eachother.
