How many of you live with your FH? If you don't, do you plan on doing so before the wedding? Or will you move in together on the wedding night/after the wedding? Why or why not?
I'm struggling with this a little bit... Right now living together is not an option because I'm a student and I don't have the income to support myself, and it's really too much to ask him to support me. We're both living with our parents for now so we can save up money. And I also feel like I want to wait until we're married... not for any religious reasons or anything, but because I feel like when you live together beforehand, then there really isn't a lot of difference between being married and not (and that's what I've heard from people), and it's really important to me to feel a change when we get married, to feel like we're really embarking on a new life together.
But... I miss him so much. I hardly see him because of our schedules. And I miss spending the night with him - it's really awkward to do that when we're living with our parents, but we used to spend the weekends together when we were in college, and I just miss having him there when I fall asleep and when I wake up.
I was just thinking about this because I couldn't see him or talk to him all day today because of his work, and I just missed him so much.
So, yeah... it can't happen until I get a real job and a real income, but I'm hoping to have a job next September, and then maybe we could move in together after that... but then there would probably be less than a year until the wedding, so I don't know if it's worth it... and I really want to feel that difference when we get married.
So, what are you guys doing? What are your thoughts on the matter? thanks!
weddingbunny
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Posted by mhermanns
We do not live together. He would like to and at times so would I. I agree with you on wanting it to feel like you are starting a new life together. I have also heard stories from people and they all say to wait because when you come home from the wedding or the HM, you don't feel any different if you live together before hand. He does have his own place now though. I haven't stayed there yet, but we have gone away together. But whatever- to each his own.
That's exactly it - everybody I've talked to who was living together before marriage says that it really didn't feel any different when they came back home after the wedding. I mean, they were married so it was different, but there was no feeling of starting a new life together, and I REALLY want that. We were thinking about maybe getting an apartment before and moving into a house after the wedding, and then there would be that feeling, but it's just not financially possible to do that.
I think it's easy right now to say 'of course it will be different, we'll be married' but that's only a prediction, since most of us here have actually experienced that yet.
Blu-ize
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Sara-do what's best for you. Eventually you will be with each other everyday and night..it will be very special.
PaddysGirl15
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I own my house and when my roomies were moving out so were his, it made sense at the time, 2 1/2 years later we still live together. I am so glad I did it bc I love falling asleep with him every night and waking up to him each morning!
