Living together b4 Marriage

Original post by prettyprincess07

Apr 03, 2006 12:16 PM

If you and your fiance both know marriage is on the horizon, is it alright to live together? Do you think it helps to see what married life is like? Yes/No and why?

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MNM7to7 Posted: Apr 03, 2006 06:18 PM

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I would love to live with my FI right now but because we're paying for the wedding ourselves, its much cheaper for us to live with our parents. I don't think there is anything wrong with living with your FI/BF before marriage.

casjj28 Posted: Apr 03, 2006 06:21 PM

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Posted by lilred13

we are living together now and have been for 3 1/2 years. I know the church says no but now a days I think it is good because you get to learn about each other and learn how to cope with ine another, what buttons to press or not. I feel moving in together right after getting married is hard because you need to adjust to each other and being married at the same time. I feel our relationship won't change too much since we have been living together for a while.

Took the words right out of my mouth. Adjusting to marriage is hard enough without having to work out all the new 'living together' issues. We have lived together for a year and a half and its the best decision I have ever made, I feel like I am going into the marriage with my eyes open.

oOMarshmallowOo Posted: Apr 03, 2006 06:30 PM

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I think it's perfectly fine to live together before marriage. Since you are both planning the wedding as we speak, I actually think it'll make the proces smoother since you can talk about the planning whenever you want. FH and I don't live together right now and we are actually think this makes the wedding planning a little bit more difficult!!! We are in the process of buying a house....
Of course, you should do whatever you feel more comfortable with!!

camerakrazie Posted: Apr 03, 2006 06:31 PM

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Me & FH have been living together for a year...but TO EACH ITS OWN

I think its a great way to learn about your FH...I say do it!!! Even though we are living in SIN!!!

NinaChris07 Posted: Apr 03, 2006 06:35 PM

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Definitely to each his own, I wouldn't judge anyone, but we are both living at home with our families to save money and also so then we can move in together after marriage...

soon2bmrsdunn Posted: Apr 03, 2006 06:37 PM

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I think it is fine to live together before you are married. However we will not be. I want that feeling of being married and living together for the 1st time. I want it to be special. But that's just me. Maybe if our situations were different we would live together. We both still live with our parents.

bride2b24 Posted: Apr 03, 2006 10:31 PM

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WE've lived together forever!

autumrhythm Posted: Apr 03, 2006 10:33 PM

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I must be naive or something.. but I thought that swhat you do before you get married.. live together to make sure things are going to work out before you make the final step..

autumrhythm Posted: Apr 03, 2006 10:35 PM

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does the church really so no?
Why is that?

lisaslove Posted: Apr 03, 2006 10:37 PM

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we have lived together for few yers now its great!! you already now all the person quirks and you get used to lol

iBCraZ131 Posted: Apr 03, 2006 10:42 PM

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I don't see a problem with it. So many people do it nowadays anyway. For our situation, it's not going to lend to it because he wants to wait until AFTER we're married to live together so until then we are going to live home until we're married.

weddingbunny Posted: Apr 03, 2006 10:43 PM

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Posted by Missladybug15

I think it is perfectly fine to live together but for me, we are both saving so we are living with our parents till the wedding

same!

jax1023 Posted: Apr 03, 2006 10:47 PM

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I was supposed to move in with my FH when his roomate moved out, but my mom flipped out about it so I didn't. I technically still live at home, but I'm helping pay his rent (he's a phd students, I have a real job) and stay out by him at least 3 nights a week.

I wish we could live together though. Personally, I don't see the big deal. I don;t live there, but I'm there so often its really a difference of semantics.

weddingbunny Posted: Apr 03, 2006 10:49 PM

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I should probably expand and say that I would like to move in with him maybe a few months before the wedding, or at least sort of start moving in together, even if it doesn't become my permanent address until after the wedding. Since our wedding is in October I'm thinking we should move in together July/August

That way I feel like we'll have time to adjust beforehand, and it will be summer and since I'll hopefully be teaching by then, I'll have summer time to pack and move and set up and everything, but living together will still be relatively new by the wedding so it won't feel old and all just the same... it will still feel like a new life together, but without that kind of 'shock' of being just tossed head first in on your wedding night.

great plan, huh? we'll see if any of it works out!

brittny817 Posted: Apr 03, 2006 10:52 PM

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We practically live together now, spending every night at my parents. I should mention that I have a private aparment in my parents house BUT we are moving to Brooklyn July 1. I CAN'T WAIT!!!!!

cpostel Posted: Apr 04, 2006 12:38 AM

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We just moved in last week, and we couldn't be happier....Yes It's an adjustment but like those before me have said it is a great idea to really make sure you can tolerate each others behaviors.
P.S. Even though we live together now I know it will feel different when we are married b/c we would have said those vows in front of the ones who love us and it will strengthen our love and relationship.

werock0709 Posted: Apr 04, 2006 07:35 AM

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I had my own apartment, and kept telling Darren we would save money if my son and I moved in with him. Well, we finally made the move last July. Wouldn't change a thing.

leshellem Posted: Apr 04, 2006 07:42 AM

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Me and FH don't live together yet, but we will be house hunting by the end of the year and we will be living together before our wedding. I cant wait, we will really get to know each other.

Mooshyboo Posted: Apr 04, 2006 08:19 AM

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Hi - Me and FH live together (it was not a planned thing actually) We went looking for a house as a goof (he is a real estate person on the side) with the intention in a year or two - but then we fell in LOVE with this house and new it was the one (first one we looked at) We both actually thought of it as a business deal at first until the day we closed we realized what actually happened - and realized we are now actually living together. But it was the BEST decision we made - you really get to know the person plus it made me want to be with him forever even more...