Hey ladies, just curious as to what everyone's thoughts/opinions are about living together before marriage. FH and I still live at home with our parents and we're planning on living together once we get married....trying to save up as much $$$ as we can!
mishmosh328
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We both live at home on the all-inclusive plan
Our plan is to close on a house about 3 months before the wedding so we can fix it up and FH will live there and I will 'officially' move in the day after the wedding!
We would LOVE to live together now, but we just cant afford it at this point in our lives.
Irishny8
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My FH and I have been together for 5 1/2 years and we have lived together for 3 and for US living together was the best thing. We knew 3 yrs ago that we were going to get married but finances were not good so we decided to move into together ( we were both living with roommates at the tiime) and try to help each other pay off bills and here were are engaged and planning a wedding. The first month was wonderful, the next month was when we had the 'You know when you do ______ its REALLY annoying' conversation. But its been nothing but wonderful ever since and I can't wait to marry him! Good luck!
MrsDrinkh20
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we have been living together since december...its amazing...I am so glad we lived together befre we got married...it gives us a chance to play marriage before it actually happens!
HotAir
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We live together already. We moved in around a year after we met. However, he basically lived with me since we met but he still had his own apartment.
FuTuRe MrS MaZz
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We are planning on getting a place together prob next summer... that would give us 1 yr to test out the waters before the big day
kabo0831
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i would love to live together now but we just cant afford it with saving for the wedding and all so we are going to wait intil like 3mth b/4 the wedding,
Ms SunnShinne
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We are moving in together in the next few months...we are both having a hard time living with our parents and feel its best to get to know eachothers quirks before we do get married
Anthonysgirl
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We are planning on getting a place together the summer before we get married.
stephlovesseyi
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Me and FH have been living together since last August. We brought a Condo together. It works for us, I love living with him, but I have to tell you the first few months of living together and combining finances was rough. We have never had so many arguments. Now its fine, but I could only imagine if it was the first few months of marriage and the first few months of living together. How stressful that would be. I suggest for anyone who is thinking about living together before marriage to do it. It lets you know if you can live with this person forever.
mdawg
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I think its extremely important to live together before you get married... people have many different quirks that you may not be aware of if you dont wake up next to them every day and go to sleep next to them in between...
i'm not saying to never leave each others sides, but jordan and i were roommates before we even started dating, and let me tell you that there are things about him that piss me off and things about me that piss him off, but we've learned to compromise and make changes before we let these things pile up.
Having new 'roommates' takes an adjustment period which can sometimes include many fights... wouldnt you rather get those fights overwith BEFORE you get to enjoy the newlywed time? I know I would... and I did.
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ellyoxox
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we definately plan on living together before we get married, just trying to pay off some bills first. right now we both still live at home, but i sleep at his house every night and i'm there all the time so its kinda like we live together but not quite, lol.
MegBert
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We plan on buying a house right before the wedding and moving in when we say 'I do' Mom wants us to do things 'the right way' bla bla bla....but we are 24/7 with eachother now at his house or mine!
DonnaPWhite1124
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we've been living together for almost a year now. It's ok. I mean it definately puts the relationship to the test. Sometimes I want to strangle him. It has its ups and downs but its definately worth it giving it a shot if you can
tinadansr
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we jsut started living together............We've been together for 7 years and it was time for me to move out of my house! For some reason I just get along better with my parents.... is that weird? It worked out well!
teddybear8301
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FH and I currently don't live together; he has his own apt in Queens and i live in LI with my parents. My mom has an issue with us living together before the wedding...but i told her she needs to wake up and realize that things have changed! FH has to be out of his apt by October and we will start looking for a place together soon, even though mom isnt too happy!
LAL0111
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You have to do what makes you happy not someone else
FH and I have been living together for 1.5 years and just bought our first home in Smithtown back in April. It was the best decision that we made. We just followed our hearts and went for it!
nicopico13
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We've been living together for 3yrs now. I definitely wanted to make sure we could live together before getting married! It does take a little adjusting but its great!
fh just bought a house, i will probably move in within this year!! i deff think living together before marriage is better. i just want to give him sometime to settle into his house w/o me for a little while
