long island wedding gift$$$

WINO1 Posted: May 25, 2003 11:14 PM

long island wedding gift$$$

How much is an average gift amount for a good friend, my friend from minnesota is giving good friends 75, he asked me what I thougt, I think this is very low, he is not bringing a date. I didn't say anything yet. Need advice. My fh give anywhere from 250-400 at weddings....

julybride444 Posted: May 25, 2003 11:32 PM

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Depends on the person and their financial situation. Also, people from other areas just don't give as much, keeping in mind that for some people (not around here:) $400 is a mortgage payment.

If your friend asked advice, then I'd tell him or her that at least $100 is a good idea...we usually give $200 or more.

janatlantica Posted: May 25, 2003 11:53 PM

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$100 as a single to start, $150 per couple to start(provided they are financially able) is just my opinion to what's acceptable. (Although I think for the most part $200&up is the going rate on LI)

eternityawaits Posted: May 26, 2003 01:07 AM

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Is it really that much?! Thank god... I was wondering how we're going to manage to pay for our honeymoon!

Jen2704 Posted: May 26, 2003 01:28 AM

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Depending on the financial situation: 100 if you come to the wedding alone/ 200 and up a couple. It also depends on how close you are to the person. I make sure I at least cover the plates and give above the amount.

WINO1 Posted: May 26, 2003 07:05 AM

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he is going alone so I will tell him $100, I just wanted to check...thanks.

Jenn524 Posted: May 26, 2003 07:30 AM

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As a single I would start at $100, but it's whatever they can afford. Some people really don't have the money and the extra couple of dollars makes a big difference to them.

susans Posted: May 26, 2003 07:34 AM

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I think that if the wedding is in NY $100 for a single is fine. But considering that the wedding is in Minnesotta, I'd have to say that $75 would be considered more than generous. (Weddings are so much cheaper in Minnesota than they are around here)

The whole money thing is very regional. Although it's the norm on the East Coast, it might not be considered proper etiquette in the midwest.
We had friends who married in the UK. If we had given money, everyone would have thought it was tacky.

If theses are 'good' friends. I'd ask what they want first, as well.

Annieb Posted: May 26, 2003 11:46 AM

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My fiance and I usually give around $300 or more depending on how close we are with the bride/groom.

Honestly, I used to try and 'cover my plate' but I think for some weddings that has become somewhat impossible as many people are now paying over $175 per person by the time you add in tax and service... I am not expecting ANYONE to 'cover their plate' at my wedding.