So my sis (MOH) and one of my best freinds (whos also a BM) planned my bachelorette party which is in AC. So they put the word out a while ago to get a head count of who wants to come. Everybody on my list said yes (around 11 girls). So my BM goes and puts $1000 on her CC to reserve the two rooms. Then they call people to tell them the price and low and behold, everyone starts dropping out including my two FSIL (one has $$, the other always cries the blues, like we all dont have $$ issues), three girls my FH works with, and one of my closest friends who was not in the BP. The three work girls are even now planning to have their own night out for me, but never called my sister to tell her after they said yes to her! and my friend had ever excuse for my sister why she couldn't come-whatever. So of course i have no idea this is going on until my one FSIL calls FH and starts ranting to him about how my sister is asking for $150, blah blah and of course i can hear everything b/c shes practically screaming. Totally ruins my surprise. So my BM calls me last night and says, this was all suppose to be a surprise but i guess you have heard a little whats been going on. So she says we didnt want to bother you with this, but me and your sis think you need to know whats been going on, incase this gets back to you form someone other then the two of us. So she proceeds to tell me thats my two FSIL decided to stay in a free room with my FMIL so they can enjoy her comps and not have to spend a dime on me, but they would come to our hotel to meet us for drinks, real nice right? Did they offer the free rooms to my sister and the other 3 girls going? NOOOO! They are now deciding this a week and half before my party, fully knowing that the deposit was given and it screws the other girls (it raises the price). So now my sis and BM are so mad, b/c they are thinking how dare they do this to me, when i am so good to them!! Plus they are in my BP!!! So now my sis and BM don't want them there, so my sis calls one of them and tells her that b/c so many girls dropped out, they cant afford the room and they dont know what they are going to do (we arw still doing the AC thing-hehe) and its better if they do their own thing for me (like i want that now), and my FSIL was like why and asking a million questions and saying that let her know whats decided b/c they will meet us, etc. Dont do me any favors. So my sister is going to call her again and just tell her do your own thing and thats it. .I really don't think they are trying to be spiteful, they are just being selfish and doing whats good (and cheapest) for them and not caring who is screws. Meanwhile, i have spend tons of $$ on both their kids and I have babysat for them (multiple times)for free in the past!! I am just so surprised and hurt, like i am not good enough or something. Thank god my sister and friends are saints!! I really appreciate them. My sis who has been in many weddings, said she never had to deal with this s@#* esp coming from the future family!
meliwhit
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Oh no!!! I am really sorry you are going through this!! I had a similar issue where a BM didnt want to go where my MOH planned and yada yada...it all worked out, but its un-needed stress for you!!!
Im sorry!
ETAB
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Oh I am sorry, that is not an easy situation to be in. Things like this are the ones that always cause so much stress.
Listen, the people who you really want to celebrate with are going to be there with you and for you and that is all that matters. You do not want people who dont want to be there putting a damper on your bachelorette party. Go there with your sister and BM and have an amazing time!!!!!
jenntony
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Posted by ETAB
Oh I am sorry, that is not an easy situation to be in. Things like this are the ones that always cause so much stress.
Listen, the people who you really want to celebrate with are going to be there with you and for you and that is all that matters. You do not want people who dont want to be there putting a damper on your bachelorette party. Go there with your sister and BM and have an amazing time!!!!!
sarahradio5
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I am SO sorry you're going through this! I can't BELIEVE how selfish some people can be! I can already see hints of bachelorette party crap for the future (one FSIL is already complaining that my wanting an overnight in Greenport and going to the Vineyards is 'expensive' (she complained to my MOM, who now has to pay for a good share of my shower since a lot of my BP was stressing out my MOH and claiming poverty). It ***** to spend so much time and effort for people and not get that special attention back in return during the most special times in our lives. I know how you feel. I'm so sorry. I know you're doing this the best way to not cause an argument before your wedding, but I wish you could just tell them off and tell them the truth about A.C. Do people realize that when they say 'yes' to something like this, they will screw over everyone else when they pull out? And the respectable thing to do is to put $$ in anyway for you. I guess just learn from it, and don't be so available the next time they desperately need a babysitter.
PrincessConsuela
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so sorry this is happening many you will have fun with the girls who go dont worry. youll party your arse off!!!!!!
unfortunatly you find out your friends true colors when it is YOUR time.
stacey&paul
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That's ******. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I had issues with my bachlorette party too as well as the shower.....When we went to AC we got 2 rooms and one was comp'd.. everyone split the total cost.....Don't worry about the others who want to rain on your parade....just relax and have a great time! I went to the spa and got a massage....just something to think about...
