long vent!!! wedding conflict.... ugh

Ok so get this... I know its late... i guess i really need to vent to the board. Thanks in advance for those of you who actually read this long vent.
Here goes...
I booked my wedding back in Feb for May 2010. My two other cousins got engaged around the same time (annoying i know). So as luck would have it....my FOURTH cousin (i have a bigggg family) just recently got engaged in may of THIS year. I was the FIRST ONE TO book my hall, and the second to get engaged (not planned).

I told one of my good friends I booked my hall for may of next year,back in feb. She told me that ,my cousin (who she is good friends with and im not) that she planned on booking in fall of 2010. When my friend told her i booked for may, all of a sudden she booked in April(on my bday- im sure she didnt know it was my bday but she did know when my wedding was!!!!) which is fine, w.e. NOW the thing I AM PISSED at and the point that I am getting at is.. my 1st cousin (moms brothers daughter) who recently got engaged in may booked her wedding for the second week in april!!!!! i told her in MAY (a few months ago) and said 'look i booked my wedding for may 2010 back in feb, just letting you know' Because I didn't want weddings back to back. I dont know why her dumb *** would possess her to book literally two weeks before my wedding!! is she a moron?!?!?!? Especially in this economy, the same guests have to attend three weddings within a month and bridal showers back to back. ***?!?! MEANWHILE, i was the first one to book out of all of them!!!

I was even going to say something to the cousin that booked two weeks before my wedding like,' *** how rude is that?'. My dad was so pissed, hes like im going to confront your uncle and aunt when i see them lol.

SOrry for the long vent... I just think that by the time my wedding rolls around, some people might not want to attend =( after attending three bridal showers back to back, then three weddings= $$$$$$$
Unfortunately theres nothing I can do because its booked. But UGHHHH!!!!!! I REALLY WANNA SLAP HER!

ughhhh i'm like pissed for you!! That is so so annoying.. like they have the whole year they had to rush and book their wedding before you??! it really truly s u c k s because you were the FIRST out of them and now you'll be the 'last' wedding.. so by the time the family goes to yours its like oh another wedding.. you know thats soo unfair- isn't there some sorta bride etiquette!!

A girl i work with warned me on this.. she said she had a long long engagement and picked november before any of her friends were even engaged /or close to being engaged.. and guess what they all got engaged a year after her and got married in sept and october.. she was so pissed..

i guess all you can do is say it is what it is.. dont give them any hints on your wedding stuff and try to make yours THE BEST/Most Different out of the three!!!!!!!!!

good luck girl!

I know...My mom was like forget why bother showing them your mad?... hopefully my wedding will be the best one ! lolll. Is it really messed up for me to think that? I mean if there wedding was in longer gaps I would be but im not. They couldnt pick ANYYYYY other week, month to get married.. its 3:30am and I cant sleep and im researching wedding stuff! loool I didnt even wait a really long time to book my hall. What's annoying is that i purposely went outta my way to INFORM all my cousins ALLLLLLL who are in relationships, or close to the age of wanting to get married lolll or being married (I dunNo if that makes sense lol) and this is what happens as a result.

i SHOULD have my bridal shower waaaaay before they even have theres jsut for that! haha

haha no no its completely NOT messed up to think this way! I mean we are brides we just want things to be special for us! not oh we have 3 weddings- my cousin is the same age as me and shes been saying how she wants to get engaged and get married in the summer- and this was before I was engaged and in my head i'm like ohh noo.. i really want the fall of 2010- I kept telling my FH to hurry up! hahah but if she got engaged/and picked summer like I have no choice but to be happy for her.. she hasn't gotten engaged yet.. but i'm still secretly crossing my fingers that she doesn't so next year is only my wedding! haha

I know how you feel where are they getting married? they prob picked April- bc its cheaper! duhh maybe it will rain all day on their weddings haha i'm evil! are you going to be in their wedding?

def have your bridal shower WAY before theirs! tell your mom to get on that!

redicilous. I'm sure she picked april b/c its cheaper, but at the same time she could've done it a full month in advance. let it go, she suks and there is really noting u can do so just make sure that ur shower is before and has a huge registry with expansive stuff

That is really messed up...and not fair to do to guests.

You have LIW- we'll help you plan and your wedding will blow their's outta the water.

what if you send out the invites before all the others? that way you will still stay a priority in peoples minds (and bank accounts)...sorry you have to deal with this. it suks

Awww Im sorry! It soes sck, I know!!! I guess you have to think about it like anyone who means someone and who has half a brain will realize thats its no fault of yours and shouldnt give less of a gift or not come because their are other weddings as well. My advice too would be to send out your invites a little earlier than you would have normally (say...when a week before their invites should be arriving, LOL)...just dont send to those two, lol...by the time they figured out that you sent out the invites early, they can still send theirs out right away but your will still be first. good luck hunny! you can vent here anytime!!

I usually tell brides with this type of issue to chill out, BUT I *really* feel mad for you. Especially your concern about the money factor...thats a HUGE consideration.

I would definitely be pizzed and I'd let them have it.

ughhhhhh thats soooo frustrating to say the least!!!!!! back to back weddings within the same family can get tiresome and youre right, people may have to choose between whos wedding to go to and not to go to, but on ther other hand they might be like wel we went to hers and hers so we have to go to hers also ya know? if your dad wants to say something thats ok, but i personally would leave the sunject alone, like you said theres nothing you can do about it, it was really crappy of your cousins to do this and it seems like there seeing it as a race to get married or something. Sorry lovey like we always say though whoever wants to come will come to your weddings regardless of the financial pressure

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Posted by little j

what if you send out the invites before all the others? that way you will still stay a priority in peoples minds (and bank accounts)...sorry you have to deal with this. it suks

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oooooooooooo good idea!!!!!!!!!!

Hi,

I am going through the same thing but on FH side. We have been together for 11 years and got engaged in July of 2008. His cousin who has been only dating this girl for a year got engaged in July of this year. We had been planning our wedding for months but did not have the date on paper until this July. (but family knew what the date would be as long as it was still available) Well now all of a sudden they are getting married 3 weeks after us. Honestly I could care less but I do think it is rude. Why are they in such a rush and honestly 3 weeks after ours? I like our RH better than where they are having it so I guess that helps. Now its a whole competition between the two families. The only other part that ***** is both my FH and his cousin have same last name and very similar first ones (mine-Vincenzo/ cousin-Vincent) AAARRRRGGGHHH!!! so much confusion, and the old school Italian people on their side will be confused as anything!!!!

That definitely s*cks. I can't imagine what I'd do in that situation.

i would be soooooooooooooooooooo pissssed!!!! but 1 piece of advice.. if u can financially afford to go crazyyy with your wedding, by all means do so. buttttttt if ur cutting corners u outdoing every1 else reaalllllly wont matter to the guests. 90% of them already wrote out a check lol

a guest isnt going to give u more $$ cuz u have seat covers or a seafood boat. TRUST ME. ppl are cheap as it is.. those who love u will be there. so if those ppl that LOVE you attended your wedding and told u, yours is the best one.. big deal lol. the guests will tell u how beautiful u are and how great your wedding was, even if it stunk.. cuz ppl are nice lol

sorry to hear that, it's completely normal to be mad. We all want our weddings to be special for everyone!

haha you should do your b shower earlier.