Losing sight of what's important

This is directed at no one specifically, it is a general statement that I would feel better addressing.

This site is a wonderful resource but I think there's a potential over time to feel like you're not spending enough money or doing enough with your wedding when you see what other women are doing. So I just want to say this:

Throwing money at a wedding is NOT the most important aspect of your marriage.

I didn't give a **** about what anybody thought of my choice of venue, or how much they thought we paid per plate. And I still don't.

Regardless of the people spending double, triple, quadruple more than me, I posted about my wedding with pride. There is no reason you should feel embarrassed about anything in comparison of what other people are doing with their money. My husband and I pledged our undying love to each other and had a great time doing it and sharing that with the people we love.

We know what's important, and it isn't how much we spent on one day out of our lives. You're (hopefully) marrying the man of your DREAMS! Money should have nothing to do with that.

So to the ladies who are worried about paying for your wedding... I know you can get starry eyed looking at everyone else's shoes and designer dress and jewelry and extras at the reception and fancy limos or fancy venues. But that's just not the point. You should have the day of your dreams. But that means the day you marry your lifelong companion. Not the day you invest in material things to try to prove to your guests that you've got money to burn. The guests who care about such things aren't worth your consideration.

There's nothing wrong with celebrating what should be the best day of your life. And if you've got the dough to do it up, congrats. But you're still only as lovely and excited and wonderful as the rest of the brides on this board.

I am not looking down on anyone or trying to get anyone angry. My point is that you're just as important as the next bride whether you're spending 100k or 20k because we're all marrying our men. The rest is just filler.