Love - Hate

How often do you fight with FH / DH and what is it that you fight about the most (money, career, etc)?

*FIght is such a harsh word...let's say disagree :)

closet space!
and cleaning up and throwing old crap away!

We both are interresting when we fight....we sound like 2 year olds fighting over their favorite toy lol. Like, last night we had a little tiff... he was like, can you go ONE day without going on the computer for 4 hours about wedding..>??! I was like, can you go ONE day without going on Mofia Wars and all taht other stupid stuff on myspace??!?! lol Other then that...we always make up right away by laughing it off...we're such kids. lol
Right now our careers are pretty good... money is always an issue, but we don't fight about it... we'll talk and come to conclusions...we may get frustrated with eachother about it, but we never fight about it.
What about you??

I would say we get in small tiffs almost everyday or every other day. It depends... its not fighting though. He will be like are you ever going to get off that computer. And I say when you take on a bigger part of the wedding planning. LOL! So we go back and forth and then we play fight... we might even get annoyed though and yell back and forth at each other... then refuse to talk and sit in silence but we both wind up laughing cause he knows I cant stay quiet for that long...LOL!

More serious fights come in if we are talking about money. Especially if I start bugging him about the amount he is suppose to be contributing and he hasn't put it in the wedding savings... then things get loud.

But really we cant stay mad at each other for more than like 20 mins... if that. So its all good.

Besides I am Sicilian... I kinda like a good fight!

FH and I fight about chores. I do practically everything (clean the house, laundry, cook, dishes, dogs, pay bills etc) so, I nag a lot b/c sometimes it becomes overwhelming and I want help. Then he gets mad b/c he hates being bit**ed at. Well, if you ask him I'm bitc*ing but, I'm not. I'm just being expressive!

I will admit that I'm hard to live with. I'm a organizational-clean freak and he's not so, I'm always cleaning up after him and that get's annoying too.

Our disagreements so far have been about small things...probably because we're both spoiled. I compromise...he doesn't and even though I'm older than he is (trust me I've tried to pull that card ) things end up being his way. I just like to think of it as luring him into a false sense of security...before I strike! LOL Next time when I say no boudoir photos...I'm going to mean it.

We fight about television.
Our last huge blowout was when he went out with the guys, said he'd call after dinner, and I didn't hear from him until he rolled in around 6am the next day. I'll hold that over him for a good year or until I find something better

My FH and I argue over alot of BS!! Like TV and his PS3!! He never gets off those freakin video games and then he turns around and says' You're always on the damn website'!! Why must he annoy me like that!!

Oh and we argue over the bathroom because he's like a woman... It takes him over an hour to get ready... In the beginning it was so cute, but now I have to fight to use the bathroom

I'm telling you, these little things blow up into the biggest arguements sometimes because he says, 'oh you didn't put more TP in the bathroom' and I tell him 'well you never do it so why should I?' and from there it just goes and goes....

Making up is fun though, so I don't mind it!

We bicker a lot but it passes right away.

We sometimes fight over his video game addiction. I hate going to bed by myself! I thought that was one of the perks!

I'd say we've argued about all of the above and more . . . but we love each other and that's all that matters. It never lasts long, or matters when it's over.

And I'm Sicilian too . . . AND Russian, so he's in for it forever.

Lately we fight about the computer also...FH keeps asking why I have to plan everyone elses weddings on the computer. LOL
I keep telling him I am getting ideas for our wedding.
I keep asking him why he has to watch sports Everyday baseball, golf,golf,golf. OMG!
(yawn) Borrrrrrrrring.

Our biggest problem right now is money. He is in bad debt and pretty much hid it from me our entire relationship.

I never knew he was maxed out on several cards. I never knew he has had many accounts go to collection.

It all got much worse this past winter/spring. If he had clued me in I could have helped him before it got this bad. EVERYTHING is being paid for by me right now. His family is the same - all in debt with maxed out cards and since the housing slide they all owe more on their houses than they're worth. I think we were just raised differently.

So, that is our big sore spot. He seems to genuinely realize the errors of his ways and is letting me guide him on how to pay his debts.

But, it was really rough for a while.

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Posted by TheLadyJ

Our biggest problem right now is money. He is in bad debt and pretty much hid it from me our entire relationship.

I never knew he was maxed out on several cards. I never knew he has had many accounts go to collection.

It all got much worse this past winter/spring. If he had clued me in I could have helped him before it got this bad. EVERYTHING is being paid for by me right now. His family is the same - all in debt with maxed out cards and since the housing slide they all owe more on their houses than they're worth. I think we were just raised differently.

So, that is our big sore spot. He seems to genuinely realize the errors of his ways and is letting me guide him on how to pay his debts.

But, it was really rough for a while.

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He should really call one of the debt relief companies, they will negotiate a fraction for payback, and he'll make one payment per month. He can clean up his credit completely in a few years that way. And, they'll close the accounts so he can't stay in trouble . . . . . Good luck! Glad you're there to show him the way, but why not ease the financial burden on both of you?

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Posted by KimberlyScott

FH and I fight about chores. I do practically everything (clean the house, laundry, cook, dishes, dogs, pay bills etc) so, I nag a lot b/c sometimes it becomes overwhelming and I want help. Then he gets mad b/c he hates being bit**ed at. Well, if you ask him I'm bitc*ing but, I'm not. I'm just being expressive!

I will admit that I'm hard to live with. I'm a organizational-clean freak and he's not so, I'm always cleaning up after him and that get's annoying too.

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WOW - you just described ME and my relationship with FH - we are EXACTLY the same - I do everything from cooking, cleaning, dogs, cats, pay bills, yardwork, cut the lawn, you name it. He gets mad at me when I ask him for money each week - like I'm using it to buy clothes or something! MAN! I had to finally sit him down and show him how much this wedding is costing and he got it a little. It's a never-ending argument. I feel your pain!

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Posted by KimberlyScott

FH and I fight about chores. I do practically everything (clean the house, laundry, cook, dishes, dogs, pay bills etc) so, I nag a lot b/c sometimes it becomes overwhelming and I want help. Then he gets mad b/c he hates being bit**ed at. Well, if you ask him I'm bitc*ing but, I'm not. I'm just being expressive!

I will admit that I'm hard to live with. I'm a organizational-clean freak and he's not so, I'm always cleaning up after him and that get's annoying too.

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yeah, pretty much exactly what i was gonna say - thanks for typing it all out for me

he does do a LOT with the dogs though, so i really cant complain about that at all. and, i will be the first to admit that i am slightly OCD when it comes to being organized and cleanliness - but still, i get no help so that kind of just makes it worse

dh and i fight mostly about our time together or lack thereof. during the week he's passed out on the couch by 8:30. i'm up till 10 on the computer or watching tv. then on the weekends, he wants to go fishing! i'm like ***!! u want to be on the boat more than with me huh?@@!!! then he says he can't do things he wants to do. gggggrrrrrr