Maid of Honor Problem too

Maid of Honor Problem too

I am having two maid of honor's - my sister and one of my good friends - problem is last year another good friend had me as her maid of honor - she is one of my brides maids (I can't get myself to tell her that I'm not only having my sister) I am getting married in 3 months and I don't know what to do. I get the feeling that this will hurt her b/c I could of just had my sister. I have thought of sending her a card to let her know. Am I being crazy? I think she has a feeling b/c I am having two colors and different color hats - and she keeps asking what my sister is wearing to be different. I just pretend I don't hear the question.

Maid of Honor Problem too

I don`t have any sisters, but have 3 good friends, from different times in my life, as my attendants.

I was torn between them as to picking my MOH because they all have a special place in my heart.

I finally decided on the one I`ve know the longest. My MOH has been a friend since grade school. I told the others that I had been torn, because they were all special, and that I had finally used 'seniority' as the deciding factor. They were understanding, and the one I thought might be hurt actually told me she would have been shocked if I had not chosen the one I did.

If that doesn`t work for you, perhaps there is something else you could do, such as suggest knowing she was a recent bride, you wanted to spare here the extra expense and committment of being an MOH while still including her. You could also consider making a toast to all your attendants, and make a point of saying how special she is to you, to acknowledge her.

Maid of Honor Problem too

Sorry, I don`t have specific advice on how to handle it but I think you should handle it soon. The longer you avoid her questions and let her think something that isn`t, the more you are exacerbating the situation which is unfair to her. Just try to come from a place of love in whatever you say.

Maid of Honor karen

Thanks...
I see everyone has these problems -
I have one friend who is not speaking to me b/c I am not having her - she is so hurt - she had me and considered us the best of friends and couldn't believe I won't put her in my wedding party. I feel really bad about it - so I don't want to make anymore mistakes - I should of had my other friend (we have been close for many many years) When I got engaged I just didn't want a huge bridal party - I was wrong (But people should be more understanding)