Major bridesmaid issue......may be alittle long

Mdolph6 Posted: Jun 29, 2006 09:32 PM

Major bridesmaid issue......may be alittle long

Ok here is the situation

Originally I had 6 BM and FH had 6 GM, I was praying that FH sister would not have to be in the wedding but now you can see that I have lost that battle....When we first got engaged I knew who I wanted in my wedding party but ended up not being able to ask 2 of the girls because then it would be really uneven and I didnt want FH to just ask people just to ask them.....OK anyway to get to the problem at hand FH had now asked 7 GM and now I only have 5.....My cousin in FL just found out she is pregnant and she is due 2 weeks before my wedding....so she has to back out (although she still does not want to its gonna be very hard for her to get to NY after just having a baby) anyway so that leaves me with 5 and him with 7...FH thinks I should ask one of the girls that I originally wanted to ask but I think that she will feel insulted or feel that I am just asking her because I am now short...... What do I do???
Any advise

JennJay Posted: Jun 29, 2006 09:36 PM

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Whats the obsession with having to have it be the same size wedding party? You should only have people in it that you are close with ....... not ask someone to be in it just cause you are short.

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Jun 29, 2006 09:38 PM

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Posted by JennJay

Whats the obsession with having to have it be the same size wedding party? You should only have people in it that you are close with ....... not ask someone to be in it just cause you are short.

Yeah I don't get this either. We had more guys than girls, no biggie.

anglbyme Posted: Jun 29, 2006 09:41 PM

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I think if you really want someone then ask them............... it is not to just make it even it is because now you can have them when you really wanted them in the begining anyway right????

October Bliss Posted: Jun 29, 2006 09:42 PM

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Your wedding is far enough away that I don't think it will be a problem. But I agree with the other girls - what's the big deal if the BP is uneven? I have more guys than girls, and I was in a BP a few years ago where the bride had 6 girls and the groom had 14 guys!!!

Mdolph6 Posted: Jun 29, 2006 09:43 PM

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Posted by JennJay

Whats the obsession with having to have it be the same size wedding party? You should only have people in it that you are close with ....... not ask someone to be in it just cause you are short.

Well it doesnt have to be even I guess the more I think about that...but these 2 girls I originally wanted them to be in the wedding party but then we decided not to have such a big WP and as you can see that has changed now anyway since FH has 7 now so its not like I would be asking them to be in it because I am short its more now because we dont care what size the wedding party is anymore.

njbound07 Posted: Jun 29, 2006 09:47 PM

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When walking out of the church.. have the BM's & GM's walk out in a single line instead of pairing them up... as for the reception when the BM's and the GM's walking in paired up.. have one GM walk in with 2 BM's on his arms.... and give him a pair of shades.. to make him look like one cool daddy-o..

Mdolph6 Posted: Jun 29, 2006 09:51 PM

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Posted by christina&mike07

When walking out of the church.. have the BM's & GM's walk out in a single line instead of pairing them up... as for the reception when the BM's and the GM's walking in paired up.. have one GM walk in with 2 BM's on his arms.... and give him a pair of shades.. to make him look like one cool daddy-o..

Thats a cute idea

woobie113007 Posted: Jun 29, 2006 09:53 PM

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Foxy-Cleopatra.....
I gave you my input this afternoon at work.

I think if she is aware of the whole situation then she would not see if that way at all. Especially if you tell her from the beginning that she was an original choice and then FSIL had to screw it all up (that dumb beeeeeeeeep)

Im fresh I know

woobie113007 Posted: Jun 29, 2006 09:53 PM

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Posted by christina&mike07

When walking out of the church.. have the BM's & GM's walk out in a single line instead of pairing them up... as for the reception when the BM's and the GM's walking in paired up.. have one GM walk in with 2 BM's on his arms.... and give him a pair of shades.. to make him look like one cool daddy-o..

LOL thats cute

njbound07 Posted: Jun 29, 2006 09:56 PM

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thanks I thought of it all by myself

there now.. problem solved !

snydl40 Posted: Jun 29, 2006 10:09 PM

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I would feel bad if someone asked after the fact. Our bridal party is even-only by luck. I wouldn't care if it wasn't though.

CLMon7906 Posted: Jun 30, 2006 09:15 AM

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I totally asked a girl when I knocked off other girls to fill up space and she knew it. I had wanted to ask her but didn't want to be $$ burden for her...so I didn't initially ask her. She wasn't insulted at all and was so happy to be included in our day at all. I just wouldn't make a big fuss and just ask them/her.

PrincessRose Posted: Jun 30, 2006 09:38 AM

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Posted by CLMon7906

I totally asked a girl when I knocked off other girls to fill up space and she knew it. I had wanted to ask her but didn't want to be $$ burden for her...so I didn't initially ask her. She wasn't insulted at all and was so happy to be included in our day at all. I just wouldn't make a big fuss and just ask them/her.

This happened to me. I was a late addition to my friend's BP. She wanted to ask me originally, but her original wedding date was the same as my BFF from childhood's wedding, for which I was MOH. So when her date changed and her then-FH (sadly, now her ex) added a GM, she called me and asked me to be a BM. I was thrilled and honored to be part of it.

ali120206 Posted: Jun 30, 2006 09:40 AM

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Since you wanted them in your BP originally but, you were thinking of having a smaller BP, I would ask them (not because your BP is uneven, because you wanted them in your BP).

Explain to them that you were originally planning on having a smaller bridal party but have since then changed your mind. If you haven't ordered dresses yet, it shouldn't be a problem!